My husband of nearly 25 years suffers from depression. He was involved in a 2 year emotional affair that has been over for a year now, but he continues to be on the fence about whether or not he loves me or wants to continue our marriage. I hear the most hurtful comments from him. I work hard to separate what he says to me from how I feel about myself and how others see me. Basically, I find my self worth from within and from my friends and family. I am wondering if his comments are born from his depressed state, or if they are his honest feelings. Am I in an emotionally abusive relationship, or will it improve when he has a handle on his depression? Since his affair he has treated me differently than what he had done in our previous 22 years of marriage. I wonder if there is hope of him ever returning to the loving and affectionate spouse he was for most of our marriage.