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Anxiety over my daughter, please help

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maya80 · 31/12/2018 13:08

My anxiety is through the roof at the moment generally, but also specifically about my 7 year old, which I hate and am desperately trying to hide my worries from her. I've always had anxiety disorder, but since I had my daughter it got much worse, I tend to catastrophise, like on her first school trip I couldn't get these unwanted thoughts out of my head that the coach was going to crash and I was a nervous wreck all day. She's due to go for her first sleepover and is very excited but also nervous, she's adamant she wants to go though and I'm being guided by her.

Up til now when her cousins have asked her before she's been reluctant, but now people in her class are starting to have sleepovers with best friends and she really wants to have one. I haven't wanted her to either before because her cousins live an hour's drive away, and I feel like it's too far to get there quickly if she does freak out when it's late and want to come home. Also if anything happens and we need to get there quickly.

My dh understands my anxiety but he has no concerns at all and is trying to reassure me everything will be fine. I can't stop her from doing things because of my own anxiety, and am trying my hardest to keep it hidden and inside so that it doesn't rub off on her. I'm getting myself in such a state of panic now though, I'm getting these intrusive thoughts that something will go wrong and she'll get hurt or fall down the stairs or something when they're playing and running around, I keep thinking of clips from tv when someone falls or know is their head and die : ( It doesn't help that my sil and bil are both very laid back with her cousins and don't always keep an eye on them, they usually end up breaking or smashing something they get so boisterous, bumps to heads etc. Please help with some advice on how to try and get these horrible thoughts under control, any advice would be much appreciated x

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Italiangreyhound · 31/12/2018 14:25

I had intrusive thoughts thanks to OCD. I had CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) on the NHS and it was sorted. You can get a federal from your GP.

I can't tell you whether sleep over a will be safe for your child but my dd has had several and all has been well

I'd your worries are beyond normal worries I really would seek help.

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Italiangreyhound · 31/12/2018 14:26

Referal not federal!

Greenglassteacup · 31/12/2018 14:28

Sounds like you have generalised anxiety, you’re predicting a range of potential catastrophes that are possible but not likely. CBT on the nhs.

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