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Long recovery becoming draining

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emmaxelsie · 22/12/2018 21:43

So through all my pregnancy and even labour I have been in incredibly high spirits. I was in active labour for two days (agonising pain which I dealt with at home), when I was pushing I didn't need pain relief as didn't feel it was painful, but had an episiotomy. Although was up straight away and felt fine, the next three weeks were very painful and I struggled to sit down in any position. Had about 2 days were I was finally able to and then I had pain in the bottom of my spine. 5 days later I discover its a pilonidal cyst. I have now had to go in hospital and have it drained, but it needs to be redressed every 2 days which is not comfortable. I can't help but be incredibly frustrated and stressed out. Being in pain for so long and being told I will continue to be for another 2 months is horrific. I want to be able to look after my baby well, but struggle to even get up and stand at the moment. I don't have a partner and am living with my mum, who helps but has a lot on. Despite how strong I was at the beginning, all this pain and issues with my body really is changing me and draining all of my energy and happiness. I don't feel like me. I want to cherish every moment with my baby, but can't wish the days away fast enough because of the excruciating pain. How does anyone cope?

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HJE17 · 22/12/2018 21:48

Recovery is much harder than anyone seems to talk about (and yours appears more challenging than most!). I can’t offer any concrete advice, but can tell you that wishing these days away is fairly common and nothing to beat yourself up about. Your body has been through a pretty major trauma and your life is in upheaval (although for a great reason!). It’s ok to feel ambivalent about that. Amongst most of the mums I know, people seem to turn a corner around 10 weeks. Hang in there, stay afloat, and easier days will come. You’ll begin to feel like yourself again! x

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