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Mental health

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In hospital for Christmas

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FFSOMG · 21/12/2018 15:18

Stuck on a 1:1 with no leave at home for Christmas. I have two young sons and a husband at home who will be coming in to see me for one hour and that’s it. Feeling so blue

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Aridane · 21/12/2018 15:20

UAEMum · 21/12/2018 15:21

Why are you in hospital?

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FFSOMG · 21/12/2018 15:31

Severe depression/bipolar/suicidality

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anniehm · 21/12/2018 15:32

So sorry

BifsWif · 21/12/2018 15:33

It sounds tough OP.

Try and remind yourself that you’re in there getting better so that you can enjoy many more family Christmases to come. Next year will be different

UAEMum · 21/12/2018 15:37

Its hard but if you were at home, could you cope?
Better stay safe and get better ready for the next family event x

erinaceus · 21/12/2018 20:16

I was in a similar place this time last year. It was miserable and I hated it. I seem to remember I watched The Chase on Challenge TV for days on end.

I am in a much better place now. I’m happy to chit chat on here if that helps you. Certainly MN MH board has gotten me through some dark moments.

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FFSOMG · 22/12/2018 02:53

Thank you everyone. The staff are being wonderful and really making an effort, but I just miss my bed and family.

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RestingButchFace · 22/12/2018 03:00

You will of course miss you family and I am sure they miss you. What they will be counting down the days for is not a sackfull if presents but you to hold them x

erinaceus · 22/12/2018 04:42

yy of course you do. I am glad the staff are being great, that makes a big difference. Do you get to go outside? That makes a bit different to me, whether a courtyard or escorted walk.

SofiaAmes · 22/12/2018 05:37

Please remember that you have given your family the best Christmas present which is to get treatment and help so that you will be around and there for them for many more Christmases to come. The father of my children never acknowledged or got help for his severe addiction and mental health issues and has lost his family as a result. None of his 5 (2 are mine) children have a relationship with him and 3 of them haven't spoken to him in years. My ds' last Christmas was spent in hospital (after a suicide attempt), but I'm so happy he got the help he needed and a year later is alive and stable and will be spending Christmas with us.

EarringsandLipstick · 22/12/2018 05:41

Sofia that’s desperately sad.

what an awful time you must have had last Christmas with your DS. Brilliant he’s recovered now, you’ll have a great Christmas.

OP I’m so sorry, that’s really tough. You are in the right place and hopefully 2019 will be easier.

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FFSOMG · 23/12/2018 11:08

Not allowed outside as I’m on 1:1 so stuck on the ward. Yesterday was a really tough day and the nurse mentioned PICU but I’m going to try really hard to at least make it to Christmas Day so I can see my husband, and maybe get off 1:1 so I can see my kids.

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erinaceus · 23/12/2018 11:09

That’s crap RE outdoor space.

Have you been to PICU before?

Is there anything MN MH board can do?

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FFSOMG · 23/12/2018 11:16

Never been to PICU, think it was just an empty threat. I can’t believe they would do that rather than seclusion.

Just having people to chat to as a distraction is good, and an anonymous place to moan!

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erinaceus · 23/12/2018 18:42

Who knows RE PICU. I’ve never been myself. It sounds best avoided.

I am happy to chat. I find distraction can help. Sometimes, anyway.

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FFSOMG · 24/12/2018 21:32

Really sad, really struggling. I hate the night staff. I miss my kids and putting them to bed on Christmas Eve excited for Santa, reading the night before Christmas. It’s not fucking fair.

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achoocashew · 24/12/2018 21:39

You are doing the right thing staying there and working on getting better. My sister was sectioned so I have a little experience of mental health problems. Please try to focus on the positive, you are getting treatment and it will work, rather than the negative, you are away from your family. They still love you. Unmumsnetty hugs 🤗

erinaceus · 25/12/2018 08:30

It is not fucking fair.

Are you able to FaceTime them?

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FFSOMG · 30/12/2018 14:24

It was awful. I’m now on 2:1 at nights and have to sleep with the main light on after a bad night. The first Christmas in 10 years not spent with my DH. But it’s over now. My medication is going to be increased and I’m going to ask about ECT.

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FFSOMG · 30/12/2018 14:25

I do FaceTime when I can emotionally

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Crazycakelady17 · 30/12/2018 14:43

So sorry to hear your having a hard time it’s an awful time but your doing the best thing getting better for your family,
I was released 2 weeks ago from hospital so know what it like to be away from your husband and children
Hang in there and vent on here

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FFSOMG · 30/12/2018 22:18

I have to sleep with the light on, it’s ridiculous. I’m fed up of being on 1:1. The whole thing is shit.

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erinaceus · 01/01/2019 05:45

Hey FFSOMG.

I agree with @Crazycakelady17 hang in there and vent on here if that helps you.

I have spent several festive occasions in psychiatric hospitals. I don’t know what to say that might help you. When I was in hospital I found most well-intentioned comments irritating. TBH I found most things irritating. I did find MN helped though.

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FFSOMG · 01/01/2019 10:03

I spent my nye in seclusion

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