Hello, I am in desperate need of help and advise.
My adult son has, I believe, had a breakdown. This has been coming on for some time, but in recent months things have escalated, and the past few days reached crisis point. He has been through an unbearale level of stress this year (all of our family have). Additionally he has severe ADHD and BPD for which he takes medication, although not regularly.
He has become very aggressive and violent, undertaking dangerous activities, breaking the law and believes he is the strongest/most intelligent/most handsome person and can do as he decides. He believes he is bigger and better than anyone else and demands respect from everyone he meets, even strangers. If this is not to his standards he becomes very aggressive. He makes terrifying claims of the violence he will use, and has huge delusions of grandure. He is no longer safe to drive, he is waiting to do to court for various unpaid traffic offenses, has run up huge debts by taking out store cards and then maxing them out by buying unnecessary and expensive items. He has lost his job many times over the past months, as he will not accept anyone telling him what to do, and cannot get universal credit for the same reason (he will not tolerate being told what to do eg attending an appointment). He believes he is so far superior and that these people (bosses or job centre workers) and tells them "you do not know who they are dealing with".
Because of the level of violence and the effect on the rest of the family I have had to ask him to leave the family home. I literally felt I had no choice because our younger children/grandchildren should not have to tolerate such things. Without going into detail living with him the past few months have been hell of earth. I should add he is now in his early 30s. After tonight he has no place to stay. I know my actions seem cruel but I have had no choice in making him leave.
However, I do desperately believe a mental health assessment needs to be done. We have two extended family members who work in mental health, and both agree that he is not safe right now and a danger to others, and most of all himself. I have been told that a mental health assessment can only be done via two methods: 1. via the GP (he will not go to an appointment and the surgery will not speak to us as he is an adult) or one being requested after he is arrested. Can anyone please give me advice on what to do to help him.
And also he will have no place to stay after tonight, as all his "friends" (ex friends really) cannot tolerate his aggressive nature in their homes either.
Please can you help me to help him.