Feel so low

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I'm not sure what to do I'm in a place I've been for a while but all the connections I've made have fallen apart and I've isolated myself from everyone. I'm a single mum to a baby. No involvement from the father. I feel so alone and so sad. I'm in a big city and I have no one. I want to move but I have services involved and I know it would look bad but I can't stand being here any longer. I want to move house but I'm on benefits and have no one to be a guarantor so I feel like I'm stuck here forever and I hate it. I want to kill myself but won't because of my kid. But maybe social services will take them anyway and then I definitely will. Don't know why I'm posting really I just don't know what to do.

Advice anyone?

Hang on there. Have you anyone around you in real life?

Are there any local groups (kids or single parents) that you can join - even a local church? You need to have people around you and interact with them to ‘get out of yourself’.

Can you join some baby groups? Meet other parents....they'll be a diverse lot if you're in a big city and you could end up making friends. It's hard at this time of year... try to make your place cosy and wait for spring. Plant some bulbs?

No one around me really and I've gone to lots of baby groups I just end up feeling even emptier because I feel like I have nothing in common with any of the other parents even when they have mental health problems too it's like that and the fact we have kids are the only things we have in common and I'd rather just be on my own.

I just really don't want to be here in this house in this place.

If you feel isolated you should definitely continue to go the play groups, you don't have to enjoy them but it can give you a sense of purpose to get up and go out of the house. Trust me I know it's hard and you may have nothing in common with them but if the alternative is being lonely then just go, see it as a job.

Someone else mentioned going to church? Most churches are very welcoming and friendly even if you aren't religious, it can give you the community and support you need.

There is an app where you can meet other mums.. I think it's called Mush.

Do you think you could have PND? Talk to your GP or health visitor and be honest, they will help you.
You will get through this.
Call Samaritans if you need to