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Do I need to ‘man up’?

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StarFish36 · 11/12/2018 08:28

Would like to hear your thoughts/advice!
I’ve dealt with anxiety issues pretty much all my life although wasn’t aware of what it was until a few years ago when I started suffering with panic attack’s and was signed off work for a month in total due to stress. Since then I haven’t really suffered with panic attacks but I still feel incredibly anxious at times. My problem is that I am SO frustrated with feeling this way, I aspire to be someone who is strong and who can cope with anything that life throws at me (which has been a lot over the last year or so with the death of my dad and fertility issues) however I feel so weak and sorry for myself a lot. I would hate to think of myself as a ‘snowflake’ or ‘typical millenial’ But I fear that I am due to the overwhelming feeling of not being able to cope sometimes. I always feel so awful whenever I bring up the subject to a friend or my partner because I hate them thinking of me as someone who struggles sometimes. Am I being silly? Do I just need to suck it up and accept that life is hard sometimes? Feeling especially bad at the moment because I’ve had quite a few sick days in the last six months and feeling paranoid today that my managers and colleagues think poorly of me. Sorry for the essay. Guess I just needed to vent!

OP posts:
noego · 11/12/2018 09:53

paranoid today that my managers and colleagues think poorly of me

Who would you be if you didn't have that thought?

StarFish36 · 11/12/2018 09:56

What do you mean?

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noego · 11/12/2018 10:05

The thought you are having about your boss and colleagues. Are you aware of it? If you are aware of it then choose to observe it, not to believe in it and let it go. What is left?

Thoughts are not real!!!

StarFish36 · 11/12/2018 10:06

So you mean, the thoughts are in my head?

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Shelle8 · 11/12/2018 10:12

I also suffer with anxiety,
I’m in a long term relationship of 14 years it was brought on by ptsd and I let it take over my life, now I feel like a burden to everyone my point of telling u this is I often question if I would be bette of alone so that I can become more independent, having family helping me constantly makes me needy however this man is the love of my life and so the circle continues and I continue to be needy more anxious thoughts etc... my only recommendation for you is that you do everything to keep busy for your self , hobbies etc.. learn to be independent and not rely on anyone cuz it’s hard to get out of it once you reach that point xx

noego · 11/12/2018 10:20

So you mean, the thoughts are in my head?

Yes. Separate from them. Just be your authentic self.

If you are a reader then read 'The Power of Now' by Eckarte Tolle.

Try mindful meditation, Or as I prefer to call it mindless meditation. Just use your mind for practical purposes and not psychological practices. HTH

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