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To want to commit suicide

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ilovepuppys · 01/12/2018 05:20

Partner lied to me again. Said he was too unwell to see me today. He in fact was getting drunk with his friends.

When I confronted him about this and called him selfish, he pushed me so hard I feel flat against the concrete curb.

I am in agony. And 7 months pregnant too. He was drunk and angry. I had to go straight to hospital and have never felt this devastated before In my life.

This is so unlike my partner, the person I thought loved me and would keep safe.

I don't even want to live anymore I can't believe he's done this to me - what if baby hadn't have been ok?

Unfortunately social services are now getting involved as I mentioned to them how I ended up falling on concrete. I am distraught

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Nicolamarlow1 · 01/12/2018 05:28

Didn't want to read and run. I am so sorry you are going through this. Please, if you truly feel suicidal then ring the Samaritans. When you are calmer then please think about yourself and your baby - is this man going to love and support you in the future? Then decide if your life will be better without him.

NewishMum85 · 01/12/2018 05:30

Oh OP that's awful

Have you thought about contacting a helpline so you can have a chat with someone? The Samaritans' line is open 24/7 (www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us) or there are various domestic abuse charities who could help (www.mumsnet.com/webguide/domestic-violence).

You have shown a lot of strength and courage by going to the hospital to make sure the baby is OK. It will be hard but can get through this.

Aebj · 01/12/2018 05:31

Your main concern is for yourself and your unborn child. I’m glad social services are getting involved. They will be one support network for you.
Talk to the doctors. They will be able to help and come back here. There’s always someone around

ViragoKnows · 01/12/2018 05:32

You need to cut him out of your life and get some emotional support. Ask the midwife to refer you for counselling (make sure she & SS know you’ve finished the relationship and so removed the risk). Also speak to Women’s Aid and whoever is available locally to support DV victims (midwife might also be able to signpost to this or try your council website).

Time to just concentrate on you and the baby and that includes proving to SS you’re seeking support and protecting the baby.

What other sources of support do you have? You can do this.

NotANotMan · 01/12/2018 05:32

It's a good thing that social services are involved. You're vulnerable and quite likely to try to brush this under the carpet if nobody knows about it which would be very dangerous for you and the baby.
Realising your partner is an abusive problem drinker at 7 months pregnant is horrendous but better now than when the baby is 6 weeks, months or years old.

moita · 01/12/2018 05:33

Oh sweetheart. Things will get better but you need all the support you can get.

Have you got family and friends you can call?

ViragoKnows · 01/12/2018 05:33

You’re bound to be in shock. Just make a list and do one step at a time

NameChangeToAvoidBeingFound · 01/12/2018 05:35

You need to leave him. What he did was unacceptable and could have caused serious damage. Do you have anyone around you for support?

QwertyLou · 01/12/2018 05:36

Aw you poor love, what an awful thing to go through

I was once in a seven months pregnant and in a similar situation (minus the violence). I felt utterly lost and couldn’t see a way forward.

Four years and two months later, my only regret is not extricating myself (and the babe) from a bad relationship sooner!

I have a beautiful four year old son who is the light of my life, could not be happier. We out in the garden pulling up weeds right now (quick break but couldn’t read and run).

SS just want to protect you and your babe, hopefully they can put you in touch with more support

I know it’s tough, hang in there, keep posting if it helps

Gramgram · 01/12/2018 05:36

Do you have a family member of friend you can call for support. They would want you to call them regardless of the time. Take care.

Or as others have suggested call the Samaritans.

Pannalash · 01/12/2018 05:40

Social Services will be a great support to you. You and your baby deserve a safe and loving future. Thinking of you, you will get through this. Take all the help you are offered. Sending hugs.

PulyaSochsup · 01/12/2018 05:43

Puppies, you are entitled to feel utterly distraught. Anyone would. Please get some support, tonight. You deserve it. Samaritans will listen and many of us here will support you. Both you and your baby deserve a safe and happy life. You must feel utterly devastated right now, but please hold on. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, please be very gentle and kind to yourself and try to remember that feelings, as awful as they can be, are transient.
Social Services will want to ensure that your baby is protected and will need to know you can keep yourself safe. They will support you but you need to work with them. They can offer you lots of support, it's worth asking them for help, they will see that you are vulnerable and upset and will want to help you through that. Please ring Samaritans or someone close to you. Give people a chance to support you.

Sexnotgender · 01/12/2018 05:46

Of course you’re upset, he’s behaved appallingly and you need to leave him.

I’m 7 months pregnant too so can empathise with how you feel. Your number one priority is you and your baby.

Please seek help from women’s aid if you can.

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/12/2018 05:56

This pain and upset will pass. You have a new chapter in your life coming. We are here if you need to talk.

Angrybird345 · 01/12/2018 05:58

Please don’t do anything. His actions are not your fault. Are you able to leave him? Could you call women’s aid?

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MichaelMumsnet · 01/12/2018 06:25

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected].

Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

We are going to move this thread to the Mental Health section shortly.

Angrybird345 · 01/12/2018 08:50

Op - how are you doing this morning?

Angrybird345 · 01/12/2018 17:11

How has today been for you OP?

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ilovepuppys · 01/12/2018 20:00

Hi everyone thanks for lovely messages and advice

I have slept all day and feel a bit better than you X

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Angrybird345 · 01/12/2018 20:22

Good to hear from you!

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/12/2018 04:44

I hope you are feeling stronger again today x

brizzledrizzle · 02/12/2018 05:15

Hope you are ok OP.

Angrybird345 · 02/12/2018 15:43

How are you doing today? Are you back at work tomorrow? That might help pass time and take your mind if what’s going on. Remember, it WILL get better. Xx

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