Does anyone else feel so down and shit about themselves

[spoon19996]

Before I really never cared but now everything I do I over think and wonder why did I say that? I should have said that etc. I feel like I have a check list of how to behave and things I have to do around people like I must make them laugh, feel happy etc.

I have incredibly bad social anxiety which has only gotten worse with age and I am completely miserable with it.

Then I have very bad paranoia and over think and stress things.

I also have never felt this down before about how I look and I have no idea how anyone could ever see me as attractive or want to even talk to me. I've never been like this before. I've always thought people like people for personality but now I'm just so down about my face and body. I literally hate all of myself. It's very horrible and I'm so miserable with it

I haven’t no but it’s the middle of the night and I wanted you to know someone has listened.

You know when we look at ourselves we don’t see the whole picture right? We don’t see what others see.

spoon, have you ever discussed this with a medical professional?
My friend developed severe SA a few years ago after a run of stressful events. She benefited hugely from proper therapy and medication and is a much better place now.

I feel like this regularly, you're not alone. It's an awful feeling and i overthink everything!

Can totally relate to this. Unfortunately over time I've let anxiety isolate myself from others as well which only exacerbates things. Even to the extent I don't know how to ask for help. I wonder if I'll say the right words and mange to get my point across or if the Dr will just dismiss me. I'm sorry you're feeling this way .

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. I can relate to that feeling as I have had that before.
It is possible to get better. I felt like this for a prolonged period recently, but then got reallysick and tired of it.

Take one day at a time. Try to see the positives, even if they're just little things. Everything will eventually fall into place. You might have some more slip-ups, but that's normal.
I also find that spending time with family or friends really helps. I know that you've been very concerned about your appearance, and probably find it difficult. When you feel ready, you can start slow, by just going out with a few family and friends. But I do understand how it feels to be paranoid and it's really unpeasant.
Hope you feel better soon.

Yes I feel this way too. It’s an awful feeling, and as my username says.

Yes definitely, I used to all the time, now it's more rare, usually when I haven't done any of my self help therapy work for a few weeks. The therapy written exercises knock the nasty voice right on the head & I feel good about myself again.
I'm always telling people about the books, but tbh getting fed up doing so as 99% have zero interest. If you're interested I can let you know about them.

gourmet I’d be interested in your recommendations please

Hi Itsallpointless..I remembered one of the books has a great little review by a therapist, here:

And the other book by the same author has a nice review here:

They're both fab, 10 days has some of Dr Burns newest techniques in them..the title is a bit misleading because I think it makes it sound like a 'pop psychology' book, which it really isn't. It's a simple, clearly laid out workbook, but written by one of the world's top therapists.. & can seriously improve your self concept.

Give them a go! You won't be disappointed

Oh god yes. I can’t count how many times I think about how much I hate myself.

Me too, feel useless, stupid, hopeless.... Its awful

Yes, I feel like this often. I question myself often. I come here for support as sometimes I feel so out of touch with everything compared to other people.

GourmetGold thank you for that, I will take a look

Yep