Hello everyone.
My husband and I have 2 children. The smallest is 8 months. We haven't been getting along recently. Not at all. He can be thoughtless and unhelpful. He does nothing to do with the children unless it is the weekend. We have been arguing a lot recently and I have to be honest I have been shouting at him (when the kids are not around.) He never remembers anything I ask him. He totally blanks me when I talk. He makes me feel shit about myself. He has to pick at me every day to the point he makes me cry. Some negative comment or as usual has forgotten something I asked him to do. Funnily enough he can remember to do the things that he wants. I do get cross with him.
His mother and himself have decided I have postnatal depression. Which they have decided behind my back and didn't think to speak to me about it. It all came out in an argument a few days ago. I suffered from depression in my younger days and I don't feel like that. I don't think I feel depressed. I'm sad that I am married to a thoughtless person but I don't think I am depressed. I have been considering/want to leave him and he knows that. Is he trying to turn this on me or do I really need help?
So on to my question. If you suffered from postnatal depression did you know at the time? Am I suffering from it? How do you know? I don't think my reactions to him are extreme...?