My dh has suffered with anxiety/depression all his adult life. He’s recently had 6weeks off work with anxiety (pre summer) and was doing the right things- meds, exercise etc. He’s been back at work now but I can see him dropping again. When he’s low he can only see himself and is v snappy, quick to anger with both me and the dc (littlies) and pretty selfish, he takes everything personally and I can’t say anything right. I try so hard to understand but I am a completely different personality type, v glass half full, want to help etc. I work pt (in a stressful job) as does he and I’ve offered to go full time and he could quit but he says he can’t cope with the kids. Money is tight which is a constant stressor, he had a v well off upbringing and struggles that we can’t just buy things (although ime we are fortunate in so many ways).
Is there anything I can say/do that will help? I get it wrong and I want him to feel better, any ideas? Thanks in advance