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How to get through life when you don't want to be here?

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deedeefee · 27/11/2018 22:56

In short, I'm fed up. I've not had a great experience with life and I've put up with the thought that everyone who has met me instantly dislikes me. I get that thought as soon as I'm being introduced to someone and it sticks. Basically since i was a child I've felt people automatically hate me. Somehow I do have a good social circle, but i don't feel I deserve them and certainly couldn't open up to them. I have a daughter, who is the only person in my life I know genuinely loves me. She is the sole reason I am a zero suicide risk.

Anybody who I've ever met would have no clue I feel like this. I'm in a professional job, can be quute funny and I smile a lot. My friends have described me as the life and soul of the party. But I'm dead inside. I haven't had a good experience at life, especially with this ingrain feeling everyone is against me since a young age. Every relationship I've had has been hugely abusive. I don't like myself at all. I often fantasise about being someone else, or jyst taking off to somewhere where I'm completely alone or anonymous.

Does anyone else feel like this? How do you get through life when you've been ready for it to end for so long? I could never open up in oerson to anyone, its a trait I'm devoid of.

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ShatnersWig · 27/11/2018 23:21

Anybody who I've ever met would have no clue I feel like this. I'm in a professional job, can be quute funny and I smile a lot. My friends have described me as the life and soul of the party. But I'm dead inside

Same here. I have no family bar my parents. I have lots of friends. I am not suicidal but I think that's what will happen eventually. I had some health issues a couple of years ago and really hoped it would be something serious. I hope I'm not here this time next year.

deedeefee · 27/11/2018 23:39

Strange Shatner isnt it.. not sure if it makes it easier adhering to stereotype. Strange thing is I know I would feel awful if ine of my friends felt this low and couldnt tell me.

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Vitalogy · 27/11/2018 23:40

Sorry you're feeling like this. Do you want things to change?

deedeefee · 27/11/2018 23:45

Would love it too change. Ive had a teasing glimmer of hope here and there, but it never lasts. I actually don't want to sound like a self pitying twat lol, but I just would live to know of a way to speed life up. If I didn't have my amazing daughter I'd have exited this life long ago!

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mynameiscalypso · 27/11/2018 23:48

I don't have any children but I absolutely relate to everything else you say. I just want not to exist anymore. If there was a button I could press that would just stop everything, I would press it. There's nothing I'm looking forward to and I don't enjoy anything at all. I live hour by hour / day by day. I have changed my meds to try and help and am probably going to take some time off work to have a bit of a break but I'm not sure what the answer is really. Thinking of you Thanks

Vitalogy · 27/11/2018 23:54

What sort of things have you tried so far to change things?

AtrociousCircumstance · 27/11/2018 23:56

Have you had any therapy?

Singlenotsingle · 28/11/2018 00:07

Sorry to see you on here Shatner. Your posts usually make me smile. Not this time Sad

2018SoFarSoGreat · 28/11/2018 00:25

sorry OP and Shatner your post made me gasp. So sorry to read that. I wish for some magic spell to help you both to feel differently. :(

Ohshitwhatnext · 28/11/2018 00:26

That's my life too.

pnutter · 28/11/2018 00:28

Yeah i feel the same

user764329056 · 28/11/2018 01:59

Yes, am with you OP, will never act on these thoughts due to my beautiful daughter

angelwings72 · 28/11/2018 16:10

I feel exactly the same, it sucks. Just getting through each day is u struggle and only my children keep me going. I have no family or friends apart from 2 sisters who have nothing to do with me. It is a horrible existance and I hate it. Op you are not alone, sorry I can't be much help Op. Sending you🌹 xx

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