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Accessing urgent mental health support

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NumbersLetters · 19/11/2018 07:00

Hi. I need to access mental health support for my son urgently. Drugs, self harm, suicidal thoughts, all since starting uni 7 weeks ago. He's home for the weekend and it's all come out, and he's now in withdrawal agony and begging for help. Ive been through to 111 and am waiting for a call from the mental health team. Does anyone have experience of emergency private options in sw London? I've called the Priory but they can't help til 8am. Thanks.

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Beetlebum1981 · 19/11/2018 07:08

Trying googling IAPT in your area, I'm sure there should be a crisis number you can ring.

shouldidoitspoilt · 19/11/2018 07:08

Can you give him something like Phenergen or diazepam? To try to calm him.
I would wait until you can access private care at 8 as the nhs are so over stretched it is a stressful experience for the patient

Do you have any thing he can take to calm down with

What is he withdrawing from and when did he last take a dose?

Smoking a cigarette might help

Oh the poor poor thing and poor poor you

SofiaAmes · 19/11/2018 07:09

No do not give him any phenergen or diazepam!

HappyGirl86 · 19/11/2018 07:11

There should be a crisis team number in your area. They will send out a nurse and police officer.

SofiaAmes · 19/11/2018 07:12

So sorry. It will get better. Just be glad that he told you so you have a chance of getting him help. I've been through this with my ds at a young age. He's 18 today and doing well and I truly never thought he'd be alive at 18.

Tiredemma · 19/11/2018 07:13

You need to get him to A+E

SofiaAmes · 19/11/2018 07:14

A quick google gave me 0800 731 2864 for a mental health crisis team.

FissionChips · 19/11/2018 07:14

If you can afford private then go private.
NHS mental health services are mostly appalling.

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SofiaAmes · 19/11/2018 07:15

Do you know what drugs? Agree about A&E if you are truly concerned about his health. Otherwise, not so sure for the mental health piece.

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NumbersLetters · 19/11/2018 07:15

Thank you everyone

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BrokenLink · 19/11/2018 07:16

Go to A&E. This is how urgent mental health services are accessed in most areas.

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NumbersLetters · 19/11/2018 07:38

The drugs are mainly ketamine and zanac

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shouldidoitspoilt · 19/11/2018 07:56

He will be feeling so poorly the poor poor thing

He will probably benefit from a bit of sedation meds ..

Does he smoke has he had a cigarette
I drank wine in withdrawal I was in a state
It did help.

I didn't realise I was addicted to tramadol and I was so ill when I just stopped it.
Once we realised what was happening I didn't want to take the tramadol again so I rode it out but used diazepam and wine

It was awful
five minutes until they open xxx

SofiaAmes · 19/11/2018 08:28

Please do not give him anything else to mix with those drugs. It could be very dangerous. I think you need to take him to a&e given that mix.

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NumbersLetters · 19/11/2018 09:16

We are trying to get into the system. Waiting for various phone calls. I'm the mean time I'm panicking myself. Just need to chat if anyone is free.

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SofiaAmes · 19/11/2018 09:52

Hi. I am so sorry. This is the most difficult thing you will ever go through, but you (and your ds) will survive.

SofiaAmes · 19/11/2018 09:54

You must remain strong. But also remember that the only person who can get sober is him and you can't do it for him. I am guessing that this didn't just start at uni 7 weeks ago.

reenchantmentofeverydaylife · 19/11/2018 09:54

Do what you can to stay focused until the system takes over his care. Be warm but 'in control', as that will reassure him at some level that support will get him through this. Reduce stimulation in his environment, encourage calm distraction and familiarity. He's not going to die, and the time for you to process your anxiety is later when the handover has happened. Keep him hydrated if possible. Tell him people get through these experiences, that you live him and he's showing strength by being open, and there'll be no pressure for him to make decisions or life choices until much further down the line.

Huge hug, you an do this, both of you

reenchantmentofeverydaylife · 19/11/2018 09:55

Sorry, you love him and you can do this!

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NumbersLetters · 19/11/2018 11:14

Thank you. He's still sleeping, I'm still waiting for calls back

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NumbersLetters · 19/11/2018 11:14

I'm cleaning, thinking i might sort my cupboard of chaos Shock

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recoveryishard · 19/11/2018 12:13

When I had my breakdown I called the local crisis team who came out the same day. Also went to the GP for an emergency appointment. They will likely give diazepam or similar and something to help him sleep. They will then visit daily until a care plan is made. I now have a mental health nurse who comes weekly, counselling and the proper medication. I hope he is ok, I know how worried you must be but try and stay calm and reassure him it will be ok. My mum did take me to the hospital after i self harmed and that also helped get me into the system.
💐

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NumbersLetters · 19/11/2018 12:46

The gp phoned, talked to him and has asked us to go to a and e. He's seeming better, and is determined to go back to uni tonight. I really want to keep him here.

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HappyGirl86 · 19/11/2018 16:06

How are things? I hope you are ok.
What did the doctors say?