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Partner in hospital, struggling to cope.

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Shanmoo · 15/11/2018 10:27

About 3 weeks ago, my partner had a bad accident at work which led to burns all over his body. I'm 29 weeks pregnant. Since then he has been fighting against phsyio and refusing to cooperate with doctors. Most of wounds are healed and everyone is saying there is no reason for him not to be walking. But he gives up when he tries and shouts and swears at the health professionals. I try to encourage him but a get a mouthful of abuse. I'm i my third year at uni to make things worse. I've missed the last 3 weeks due to this. I feel like I should give up. I know I wont go today. I just want him home, but his refusal to cooperate means he wont be. He should've been out last week if he was mobile. I feel like all this stress is too much with work, uni and countless trips to the hospital . Should I go to uni and be miserable. Or should I take a few weeks off to concentrate on me and the baby and get ready for him to come home? I want this degree, i worked so hard the last 2 years, but have no interest in it at all at the moment. What can I do to talk to him. I've tried everything. I just need some advice. Sorry if I'm coming across as selfish.

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DanielleThompson · 15/11/2018 10:53

Hi there!
I think at a time like this all you can do is be there to listen and support, sadly he has to want to help himself. In terms of your degree, I think this could be a good escape for you at the moment, some time to focus on something other than what is happening closer to home. It isn't selfish to consider yourself and your own wellbeing, your family and your bump need you to be well and as calm as possible. Take each day in it's stride rather than focusing on the what if's and what may or may not happen tomorrow etc and do what you need to do x

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