Moving house anxiety

[Mrsbrooks1]

Hi, so I'm moving house in 6 weeks to a beautiful new build with the love of my life who is massively supportive of me and my mental health. The process has been going on for over year and we have been given a completion date of 17th of December. ....., why am I now having severe panic attacks about this! It's all I've ever wanted and now I'm creating a fear around it I'm terrified that I'm not going to be able to even go inside if this carries on. I know moving house is up there with one of the most stressful things a person can do but there has literally been no stressed at all. It's been pretty plain sailing. Damn you anxiety!

[Wolfiefan]

Oh no. Can you name the fear? Could you look around before the date? Can you plan things to make the move more scary?

[Wolfiefan]

LESS.
bloody phone. LESS scary.
Sorry.

[Mrsbrooks1]

Yeah we get to go and look around a couple of weeks before, I suppose it's a kind of fear of being trapped?? I don't know but I'm seriously considering increasing my fluoxetine to try and get me through

[keepingbees]

I totally understand this, I have anxiety myself.
I think for me it's the unknown. And also when you have anxiety home is often your safe place that you run to when you can't cope. So when that safe place is the thing that's changing, and you won't be able to 'run home' it's a really scary prospect.
It's also a big change in routine and taking you out of your comfort zone. Basically a perfect storm for anxiety.

I would recommend trying to familiarise yourself with the new house. Can you do regular viewings before moving? Or at least wander the area so that it's not so new and strange.
Try and focus on how you much better it will be to live there and why you chose the house. Think how you will feel down the line once it becomes home. Even after that first night things will start to feel better. Try and look at how you can make it homely, look at anything that can help make it yours and familiar. Imagine where furniture will go, or what colours you'd like where.
You'll get through it I'm sure

[Wolfiefan]

You won’t be trapped though. Moving into a house doesn’t mean you can’t ever move out again.
Moving made me stupidly anxious though. I had to spend time in the house and picture how my day would look when I lived there.