If your youngest is 1yr old can you have PND, or would it just be regular depression?

[kittylette]

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you can realise its pnd at 1yr, i was daignosed at 9months..are you ok chick?

no.

I dont know if its PND

I dont think i would be feeling like this if my mam wasnt ill, so maybe its not baby related.
Everything is just too much.

I dont wanna moan about it I feel daft, everythings just getting really hard/

the best thing you can do is moan about it wether its pnd or reg(if there is such a thing!) depression!..you need someone YOU can turn to if you have lots to deal with, you need to take up offers of help or step back and let some one else in family help out sometimes with mum?

Shes not really 'ill' yet, she has kin cancer but not on treatment yet (shes having an op)

i dont know whether to go to the docs,

im not sure i want to go on tablets.

sorry im gonna have to go, ill be back later

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can anyone in family help you out? it seems you have loads on your mind and a break, veen just a couple of hours a week may help, some time for yourself.
obv you cant stop thinking about your mum, but you need to look after yourself and you sound like youve been trying to sort everyone out and not looked at yourself?

its just everyones at work during the day, and everyday is the same, and sitting here thinking things over again and again is driving me mad,

my mum sorts herself out, its so many little things that just seem so major (when i know theyre not)

i feel like i cant breathe (physically) when i think too much (rwally have to go now!)

Hope you're all right kittylette, do you have a rl someone you can go and have a coffee with? Sometimes it's good to just get it all off your chest. Pinkchick is right about accepting offers of help, I am terrible about letting others help even tho I know it would take some pressure off. Go easy on yourself, and try and do anything you can to alleviate things that are getting on top of you.

not thati just sit here, that always stuff to do and places to go, but day after day its the same and i cant see the end, and i couldnt do any of this without my mum,

if she went i would want to go too,

If I start to feel life is getting on top of me I get up have breakfast and do an hour tops of stuff that needs doing in the house, then I go out. Anywhere. I walk for the excerise and take ds to the library, playgroup (only one I can stand to go to), park, etc. It blows the cobwebs away and clears my head too.

Is your health visitor nice? May be able to help.

Best thing is to go and talk to your GP about this. Just offloading may make you feel a bit better, but there may be more help available. Maybe counselling or ADs -- or you may find that being careful about what you eat and taking exercise does the trick.
Anyway, don't just suffer with it, take it somewhere, ask for help.

I think any mum with two little ones would feel exactly the same in your situation, the thought of your mum's situation must be very upsetting too. You could go to your gp and ask his advice, you mention you are not sure you want to go on tablets, why not make an appointment to talk it through with him and see what he suggests?

Thankyou, Its very bad today, cant stop sobbing.

I dont know what i would say to the GP, I would just start crying and feel like an Idiot,

or would worry he would think im just some daft woman whos trying to get some pills to solve all her problems.

write it down, just hand over a piece of paper if you don't feel up to saying the words

honestly, GP will have seen it before, this is what they're there for.

DS was 2 whan I was diagnosed with deprssion. It wasn't PND (I know I dodn't have that) but the doctor said it was almost certainly mild chronic depression which had been started with allt he hormonal and toher changes during pg and birth, and it had crept up on me. I took a low dose of ADs for 6 months, which immediatelky made me feel like 'me' again, and recovered.

Really?

Im just worried that once i start taking them iwont be able to come off them or something.

Ive never taken anything more than the 'pill' and an ibuprofen

MN is full of people who have come off ADs without problems. I was on them for 9mths, just till I got my balance back. Came off slowly with no difficulties.

i think it can take up to 18m for PND to be diagnosed, im reading a fab book called depression after childbirth and it focuses on the hormonal aspect of pnd rather than the emotional. it suggests that during pg your progesterone levels are so high that when you give birth the drop is too much for your brain to understand/cope with, women who bf are at a greater risk of developing PND later on because while you are bf-ing your hormone levels are stablised and havent experienced that dramatic drop, when you stop however the same thing occurs.

you should see your gp, its more common than people realise, most women experience some level of pnd at some stage and the relief once youve told someone is huge. HTH

Im going to talk to DP tonight and see if he can come to the GP with me.

thanks x

good idea. he can probably give your gp a better idea of whats happening. it was dh who suggested that i might have pnd and kept tabs on my highs and lows, i had no idea how ill i was iykwim