would this upset you?

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I have periods of depression, when I feel that there really isn't much point in being alive. I've never achieved anything and I'm now in my 60s, and, if there was an easy way of disappearing from my life without causing problems for my family, I'd do it like a shot.
I know it sounds ridiculous, but one of the things that triggered this was that I had 2 couples over for supper (something we don't often do). I thought it went well, but nobody has invited us back, and one couple didn't even contact us to say thank you. I just don't seem to be able to make friends. As in, I do have friends, but very few. And I do try - join clubs etc.
Would going to a counsellor help? And how do you find a good one?

Hi Temporary.

Sorry to hear about your depression. It's rough.

Is it true that you've never achieved anything? Nothing at all? That in itself is an achievement, I'd say, it must be about impossible to achieve nothing! :) This is about how you are framing things and the stories you're telling yourself. That's the root of depression, and the way out of it.

This woman has really useful tools for questioning thought patterns and habitual stories: thework.com/en

It's great that you're making efforts. I think a counsellor sounds like a good idea, or a therapist. You could try via your GP, ask for signposting to reputable services. MIND would be a good place to look for help on the process: www.mind.org.uk/

All best.

Sorry that you've suffered from depression for so long. I'm 28 but I've suffered from depression since 11, so more than half my life.

If I was in a depressive episode everything and anything would upset me. If I was just a little low however, I'd just think these people are so caught up in their own lives they just haven't thought to invite you to theirs. The ones who didn't thank you were rude though - so be assured you did nothing wrong by wondering why.

Do things you get pleasure out of. Spend time with those who add to your happiness not your stress.