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Suicidal with 17 day old baby please help

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tjaspe · 29/10/2018 15:12

I think I am a danger to myself. I don't think I love my baby but I do care for him somewhat, I don't want my baby to be taken away. I live with my mum but I can't tell her I feel like this, I feel desperate and I'm scared of what I will do. I'm really embarrassed. Will I be put in a mother and baby unit? Will they take him away? I don't know what to do I can't carry on like this every second I'm trying not to hurt myself

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TheLastNigel · 29/10/2018 15:15

You sound as if your have pretty awful PND my love. It's very treatable but you Must must be brave and ask for help. Please for and tell your Mum, and ask her to call the GP for you or else can you get in touch with your health visitor?
Be honest with them and please don't worry that you will be judged. This is much more common than you think and you can get help, and feel better I promise.

TanteRose · 29/10/2018 15:17

Oh love - you need to tell your mum and get to your GP as soon as possible.
It’s nothing to be embarrassed about - post natal depression can affect anyone.
Please get some help today Flowers

TatterdemalionAspie · 29/10/2018 15:19

Well done for reaching out for help. You have absolutely nothing to feel embarrassed about. Flowers

Why do you feel you can't tell your mum how you're feeling?

Countrygirl94 · 29/10/2018 15:19

Don't be afraid to ask for help, you won't be judged.
Speak to someone, health visitor, GP, a family member or friend. Whoever you feel most comfortable to tell. Don't suffer in silence though, there is help out there you just have to ask.

mouthkisses · 29/10/2018 15:20

You are not alone. Many many women feel and have felt like you. Please tell your mum, or if you can't, please ask her to make a GP appointment for you (or your HV, who are often very equipped in these situations). You've told us. Can you now tell someone who can help you?

YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 29/10/2018 15:28

Hello OP, we're so sorry you're having such a hard time postpartum. You'll get a lot of excellent support on Mumsnet - many of our users know just how tough this stage can be for new mothers. Flowers

We hope you don't mind, but when threads like this are flagged to us – we like to link to some ideas for support. We have some more information about postnatal depression, here.

We also wanted to share Mind's information with you – it has practical tips on what you can do when you feel like this and where to get urgent help. Maybe take a look and see if there’s anything which might be helpful right now.

Please do think about exploring some of the options in the links above. Samaritans are there for you too, 24/7, by emailing [email protected] or calling 116 123. You can also see the resources in our Mental Health webguide.

Very best wishes from all at MNHQ.

wallowinwater · 29/10/2018 15:55

Big hugs, you can get through this and you won't always feel as bad as you do now. Please talk to your mum if you can. If you can't speak to your GP and tell them how unsafe you are feeling. It's really important you get some support in place. ♥️xx

WitchesWeb · 29/10/2018 15:56

Please go and speak to your GP. Flowers

FannytheW0nderDog · 29/10/2018 16:02

Please don't be ashamed to ask for help urgently - it's not a sign of weakness. You've reached a crisis and you need help. No one is going to take your baby away.

  1. please ask your mother or a close friend to help you look after the baby in the meantime.
  2. Make an urgent appt with your GP.
  3. Call NHS mental health crisis team on 111 option 2. or call the Samaritans as above.

Take one step at a time. You will get through this with help from your loved ones and medical people.

LukeSkywalkerBoots · 29/10/2018 16:41

Hi OP

I’m terribly sorry you’re going through this. It does sound like PND, you need to see your GP, perhaps if you don’t feel up to talking face to face you could talk to them by phone as sometimes it’s easier to get your feelings out that way. This happens to lots of women and it’s awful.

TheWiseWomansFear · 29/10/2018 21:04

Wow I am so sorry, please recognise that this is not your fault and anyone who gets involved will not want to take baby away. They will, and most certainly can, help you. You have an illness which is fairly common and can be helped so that you and baby are happy again. Please listen to the above advice.

Dlux · 29/10/2018 21:12

Lovely they won't take your baby away, they will support you so you can be the best mum and happy. I was there and I had the same fear. I am so glad I spoke to my GP. Asking for help is a sign of a good mum, you can do this

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