Falling to pieces

[AvasGarden]

Just feel at my wits end and looking for some advice help as unable to think clearly. I had a breakdown in September resulting in a hospital admission once out of hospital I returned to work as I wanted to get back to normal. Looking back I think this was a big mistake as I am now off work again and nearly back to square one. Was seeing the crisis team every few days but now discharged. Still with my local CMHT but all she talks about is me making time for myself. Still seeing doctor who has changed my medication again due to a bad reaction. Deep down I know I need to stay off work but when I returned I was warned I have had too much time off (3 weeks in a year). I am now off again so will probably get a warning if I go back. Feel I am never going to get well again I am also perimenopausal which I’m sure isn’t helping. So sorry for waffling feel so low and desperate.

I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time. Can you go into more detail of why you are having breakdowns? Is it work-related? Family? How is peri-menopause affecting you?

I was really stressed 4 years ago, and very peri-menopausal, I had "mini-breakdowns" and had trouble sleeping. I am much better now. Perhaps I can help you?

Thankyou for answering Ithink my breakdown was caused by a mixture of things from money worries doing too much work wise looking after family household demands and two close family bereavements. I sometimes feel I want to shut myself away from everyone I do have along history of depression and anxiety but nothing as bad as the last few months.

That sounds very familiar. It sounds like you have far too much on your plate. Do you feel like you are burned out?

Can you lower your standards or outsource household demands? Can you see a counsellor? I did, not as expensive as I feared, and very efficient, I didn't need many sessions.

Yes I do feel like I have burned out. I have trouble concentrating and everything just feels too much. I am seeing the lady from the local CMHT later as I rang to say I was struggling. I think I may have to look into paying for a counsellor as the CMHT are not really helping. Unfortunately I can not afford to outsource my household chores and if I am unable to work will be very short of money. Thankyou for your help misscph1973 I appreciate it.

You are overwhelmed. I also felt like that. With age, we get less resilient. It's a matter of adjusting to that after healing. I still work, but I have to ensure that I get exercise and rest, otherwise I am back at square 1.

If you can't afford counselling, try to change your perspective by working on your thoughts. Write down 3 positive things every night, and practice re-framing situations that overwhelm you.There is always a silver lining - find it. Example from my own life only last week: My ex is going bankrupt, so he can't pay me child maintenance. At least now I won't be financially dependant on him. No panic. It's just money, no one is dying.

I will try that Thankyou you are very kind.