Husband not supportive

[CantGetNoSleeeeeeep]

I’m off sick with anxiety and depression and I’m making progress I think. My DH is working a lot and trying to set up a new business whilst working full time (as we need the money) he’s understandably stressed. But he’s giving me a really hard time. Basically saying that he can’t believe I’m not helping him and he blames me that he still is stuck in a job he hates for crap money as he has no time to work on setting up the business. I clearly have all the time in the world.
He just doesn’t get it.
Or is he right am I being selfish?

He doesn't get it. People don't.

I’ve managed to convince myself tonight that he’s emotionally abusing me but the reality is I think he’s just thoroughly fucked off with me living in my own world as he puts it

It’s times like this it feels like this is never going to end. I’m questioning my own sanity.

It's not you. It's him. He clearly has no idea about mental health and what it feels like to experience anxiety and depression.

Yes he's stressed. But you need to be taking time out for your own well being. He decided to be in his job and then he decided to leave his job.

If you could help, I'm sure you would. But when he made these decisions did he explicitly ask for your help? Did he explicitly say he would be relying on you to start up his business? If so, did you agree to help?

I have the feeling that answer is going to be "no". If it is, you OH can fuck off.

Plink.. I so needed to read that right now! Thank you!!!

I think people don't understand MH illness because it's not visible. It's also difficult for someone who doesn't suffer MH issues to appreciate what others are going through - they just don't get it.
It sounds like your husband is tired and stressed from trying to set the business up and isn't being as supportive as he could be. You say that you feel that it's never going to end - perhaps that is making him feel worse too.

Don't be to quick to blame him though
, you obviously need to work this through together

My exh never understood my mental health problems. He expected me to carry on as normal. Housework, full time job, childcare. I was at absolute breaking point.
We split up and I feel so much better one year down the line. I don’t blame him. He just didn’t get it.

I am trying to see his point of view. I actually think that I am helping more than I should be. I feel like he literally wants me to do it all. I thought that he did get this but when the heat is on him he is all that matters