I left my ex 3 years ago. He was violent and intimidating throughout and I've only just begun to process it. His friends and family think he's amazing, our children love him. I wish they could have seen him drag me out of bed by my hair or threatened to kill himself and blame me while holding a knife to his throat and screaming at me.
I'm with a new partner and happy for the first time in years, but this is like a cloud hanging over me.
How do you cope when everyone thinks he's a great guy? I tried so hard to be a good girlfriend to him and I feel like he has ruined me.