What to tell rude and judgemental therapist

[lifeschool]

I felt judged in my first session. I feel my therapist lacked empathy. He didn’t mention duration of session (neither on his profile or verbally). I was planning to ask but we started talking about my background right away and I forgot to ask. He didn’t say anything about overall plan.

Initially I didn’t know what to speak as I have problems in all important areas in my life.
He asked me about my background. Then made a comment on my accent. I am from India and speak another European language. He said - would be interesting to hear Indian accent in that language. I didn't know how to start talking about my problems.

He asked me about my family, about my parents who are separated. I had a very troubled childhood, so I narrated some incidents. Also I talked about family dynamics as I was raised mostly by gp who were v controlling. (at this time I got a bit carried away with talking).

He let me speak till 45 mins mark and then said we don’t have time for more examples. Clock was behind me, only he could see it.

Asked me if I never spoke about my past before since I talked a lot about it. He concluded that we will have to work to reduce my emotional reactions (which I agree with) but didn't say how or ask me about my objective from therapy.

I would've liked therapist to interrupt me gently midway if he thought I was talking too much. I feel I wasted my time and money, and got nothing out of it other than feeling judged.

I am really struggling at the moment and would've liked my therapist to show some kindness and direction.

Am I being too sensitive about his comments?

Should I tell him I don’t want to continue because I felt judged? Or should I see him for another session?

I know I risk being seen as ageist but my therapist is over 60. I talked to 2 other older therapists and they were also a bit insensitive. Should I go with someone younger? Sorry I am very confused.

Thanks for reading.

Op l had a lot of therapy and was agreeing with a lot Wexta was saying. Genuinely l feel she was trying to help you and l was shocked at your response.
I often felt total rage with my therapist when l left. I would sit in the car and think..you can buzzoff..l am never coming back. But l did . Because l was desperate and because l felt the things that were annoying me were things l needed to deal with and somehow they were getting stirred up in the session. Gradually l learnt to trust him and l couldn't explain how much l gained from it. He also had a clock behind my head. Its never easy when the time ends but even dealing with that is a learning experience and not one you would find easy on a first visit.
You have decided not to go back so l hope you find one you like. Sticking with the process is torture at times but worth it.

Don't want to derail the thread/make it about me but want to say I appreciate those sticking up for me. I really didn't mean to cause upset. Hope you're ok OP and you find something that works for you. It's a difficult time but it's good you're seeking help.