To ask how I make peace with myself that I don't have quality friends?

[Mossop17]

I'm feeling very fed up. I'd really like to go out for a few hours with a friend but they have priorised their house over seeing me. I'm not going to be for their time either they want to see me of they don't. However i don't have a list of alternative friends and feeling very down about it. It's been the same for years. How do j make peace with myself that I've friends big not ones I can see of do things regularly. Once every few months would be better than nothing .. . Just call me billy

That sounds a horribly lonely place to be, sorry.
Are you so single? and are they not?

I think you just havent found good friends. Friends normally want to maintain a certain level of contact, but what that is depends on each friend as to what suits them best.

Might be time to get yourself some new acquaintances and generally widen your circle, so your chances of meeting up are increased.
I do hope you can find some soon, actively seeking the types of people that enjoy doing what you enjoy doing, whether that's cooking, walking, whatever else presents?

Thanks for your reply sugar coated no not single th and 2dcs friends in question have no dc another had 2 and the 3rd friend has 1 adult dc. Been feeling let down by all of them and been wallowing! It would be great to make some new friends that fancy a coffee or a cinema trip or a walk of anything. I think it's time to widen the circle too.

Hi op, not a single friend here except dh!!
Feels daft walking into a cafe alone tbh!!
Walking ddogs alone is fine, although chatting as we walk prob makes me look odd!
Life sucks at times.

As you say time to widen your circle and go out there and make new friends. But remember friendships can take time, not everyone is an instant connection kinda person. Say hi to neighbours, other parents and other dog walkers! Have a tube of mints in your pocket so you can offer one, sounds cheesy but it will make you come across as generous and kind. Keep going and normally a few people will want to have a brief chat, this will in time turn into a longer one and then suggest a coffee and bingo! Close friendships are wonderful but these friendly acquaintances are important too and will keep up your spirits if you find it takes longer to find a few soul mates. Good luck

This: Been feeling let down by all of them and been wallowing

..and I think we've definitely all been there, feeling that! They all have stuff going on too which we don't feature in as they focus on their own limitations in getting out and demands on time/money or even the energy to. Some people are not so social or bothered about getting out, so sounds like they not a great fit! I bet if you start heading out with others and get more socially active they'll be feeling hurt you didnt invite them too!
April that's shit. Have you moved to new area or something? It's not good to only have dh to talk to, for either of you. What sort of socialising do you enjoy? There are quite biig organised dog walk around now, also cycling groups and so on...

Hi April my dh is great but I miss female friendship. He also works full time and studies in the evenings so i don't even see him much of the time it's very lonely. It would be do nice for someone to ask me to do something with them without being prompted first! I avoid others when walking our hound as he's so strong I don't like him getting close to other dogs in case they are not friendly so dog friend buddy's aren't going to happen here!

Just a thought, but there are local MN meetup options aren't there?

Mossop17, I'm so sorry, life is a lonely place to be sometimes. Do you have a job, even a part time one? It's good to have something to do, a place to go, outside of the home that is just yours. Difficult but not impossible with children and a dog.

We live at the beach, any chance you do op?? I have friendly ddogs!!

Hi Rebecca yes I work part time the irony is I worked part time before in a shop on nights and there was only 2 members of staff in so I spent the whole shift on my own think manager out the back. Then i got an office job me and the boss who then decided to be out when I was In so i worked alone again. Now I work in a big office but a team of 2. My teamie is off on leave this week. but don't know many people to talk to. Because I'm part time I don't get tea or lunch breaks where i could make friends grrr the downside of working school hours

Some serious consideration needed to your jobs in future to ensure that you actually are in a big company with plenty of companions; downside being you get less variety/Responsibility, potentially.

Sounds like April throwing you a lifeline there?

...are any of those suggestions for meetings any good for you? Like minded local mners for example?

Hopefully you don't feel you have to accept the current situation ...make peace with...