has anyone shouted and felt bad....?

[twinmumma]

Has anyone else shouted at their little one and then felt guilty? I feel so so so bad.
I have twin girls - aged 2 and today one had an almighty strop and tantrum cos I took off her shoes to put her down for her nap - and she wanted her shoes on.
I said no shoes in bed... and we all went upstairs - but she cried and screamed and ranted all the way - lots of tears and snot.
Anyway - the other twin went to bed fine, but the crying one wouldn't stop - so after much cajoling and trying to explain and distract, and cuddling and telling her to calm down - but with absolutely NO change in her - I shouted at her (just shouted her name and said STOP IT) - and then she cried more and said "Scared mummy"
that is the bit that made me feel so so terrible.
I know I am not a terrible parent - but I do totally feel like one at the moment. Am I the only one who has done this?
I have read some other posts re PND and have never considered that I could have it - they are 2 for goodness sake - BUT I think that I do have tendencies around period time - which is now. hormones are a terrible thing.
please someone tell me that you have done the same thing????

Deep breaths, cup of tea, sit down, have a cuddle. It just happens sometimes and I would wager that there is hardly a mum on here that hasn't lost their rag at some stage or other. Give yourself a break, I have just one dd and have lost it at her occasionally, you have TWO, I have such admiration for mothers of twins. I'm sure you are a great mummy

Aww hugs..it happens to all of us!!! I have shouted at my two oldest[3.8yrs and 17mths] just due to sheer tiredness and stress.

Yep, I have done exactly the same thing and usually around period time. I´ve shouted at ds several times now and he doesn´t seem to be suffering emotionally Like Carmenere said you have 2 little ones to deal with and I only have one. Please try not to feel too guilty, give her a hug, apologise that you shouted but also explain to her why you shouted - believe me in a few hours time she won´t even remember that you shouted at her I don´t think you´re suffering from PND you´re just a mum with 2 little ones and that can try the patience of a saint some days

I'm sure everyone struggles with this. Everyone has a boiling point, and 2 year olds are particularly good at fast tracking to that it aren't they.

I'm not a shouty person, but i've certainly lost it and bellowed at my dds before. I usually wait til we've all calmed down, say sorry, and explain what it was that made me angry and we all have a cuddle. Although losing your temper isn't a nice thing, its a human thing, and i think its ok for children to realise and undertand that you have these feelings too. Don't beat yourself up about it though.

thank u all for your kind words.
It is sometimes hard with 2 - although they are gorgeous.... and i am so pleased to have had twins.
They are both snotty and crabby too - so all a bit short tempered!!
thanks again - that does make me feel better - although I did cry when I read all your kind words!! A hormonal wreck today!! xxx

Yes I have done this many times. It makes you feel terrible straight after, but we all reach boiling point at some time, we're only human! Having children can be the most stressful job in the world - don't beat yourself up.

Oooh yes I've done it too! Remember with shame when DS woke up at 5.30am and just wouldn't go back to sleep....so took him downstairs and made his milk, breakfast etc...he then started to WHINE and WHINE and act all tired and I just muttered under my breath, you wanted to wake up at fecking 5.30am you are staying up...and then was immediately consumed with guilt for rest of day!!!

Erm yes...daily!!!

BTW i had PND and my child was nearly 3 before i went for help.

Not blessed with superhuman qualities im afraid.

It gets to you, the sheer unreasonableness of toddlers and its unrelenting...they just dont give up.

You are alright..you are just normal love.

I am so glad it isn't just me - although wish none of us had to go through it. the little tinkers do push their luck sometimes!
Feeling much better.... I KNOW that I'm not a c**p parent - but sometimes you just wish you could take a deep breath and not shout - but sometimes the shout is just out there before you have chance to think.
THANK U for your messages.

Yes, on tuesday dd has nursery at 12.30pm and we have to leave home between 12pm and 12.15pm to get there as it a mile away and takes about 30mins.

DD (3 1/2yrs) was given her lunch at 11.30am as normal (1 piece of bread, 1 slice ham and a piece od cheese) and she took until 1pm to eat it and then threw a massive tantrum because i wouldn't take her as it was late, i completly lost my temper with her and put her bed.

My excuse was that i had only had about 4 hours sleep as i am 29 wks. I went and had a sleep and when i woke up dd had come into my bed and was asleep but giving me a cuddle.

When we got up i said i was sorry and why i had shouted at her, we had a nice cuddle and i read her her favorite books and we had a nice afternoon doing what she wanted.