Just need to let it out

[mamabear2b]

Feel like a complete drama queen today and don't know where it's come from I have supportive hubby, ace baby who goes to bed at 11 and sleeps till 7 (11wks), am due to restart my uni degree in sept and generally have an easy life but today I can't stop crying.

I moved away from my family 3 years ago to live with my now husband who, though lovely, isn't the most sociable so it's been difficult to make friends, those I do have are at uni and have their own worries.
I just feel really overwhelmed and would quite happily hide in the house all day but have baby massage this afternoon and think I should make the effort.
I'm not normally like this and usually crave company but today I can't be doing with anyone..including myself!!

Mamabear, we all have days like this

Sometimes on the surface, everything seems ideal and thumbs up, but for some reason you just feel rubbish and feel even more rubbish for complaining about it..

How about at baby groups? Mother and toddlers?? Baby massage?? Any one there you can chat too??

Don't really know the women at the two groups I go to very well and the couple of times I have been I seem to have become some sort of sounding board for other peoples troubles!!

Think maybe need to get myself a routine of my own as well as trying to fit in with ds, it's not that I'm bored with him but 11 weeks of none stop attention, feeding, washing etc etc is probaby taking it's toll (god how awful does that sound!)and I probaby need a little 'me' time

Good to know this site is here just posting makes me feel better

No that's not awful at all, you do need you time, i go mad sitting in the house with kids, i would try and get out and walk places.. Just anything to not be tending to little baby because you are also a person too not just someones mummy

I used to talk to everyone, still do, neighbours and all.. Do any of your uni friends have kids???

don't feel guilty for feeling like this, it's likely to be a chemical thing, you're not CHOOSING to feel down. Can you talk to DH and your GP/health visitor?

Join the NCT! They have all sorts of local things like postnatal groups and evening things too, it's a really nice way to make new friends with babies. There'll probably be some summer events they could use volunteers for, you could strap on the baby and feel appreciated for standing around chatting .

Have looked at the site but nothing going on at the moment however I'll contact them to see if they need anyone to help out, fab idea thanks.

MIL has offered to babysit this week so maybe a meal out (the 1st!) and a good talk with dh is just what we need.

Going to eat low fat yoghurt and large chocolate bar now (They say balance is the key to healthy eating!!)

Glad your feeling a little better mamabear

Went out for meal last nite with dh and it was fab! We talked for ages and ate the biggest 4 course meal ever (the joys of bf!!)

Have come up with some ideas for time off for good behaviour includng a spa day, regular swimming time (to help that post pregnancy belly) and the odd sat morning sleep in. Feel less like the light at the tunnel is an oncoming train!!

Cheers for the shoulders guys

Oh that's good to hear, and it's early days for you all, this motherhood thing can be overwhelming at times & takes time to adjust to!

Good to hear mamabear, just make sure you keep it up with the 'me time'