Adult separation anxiety

[Jl2543]

I swear I’m going out of my mind. I’ve always been prone to separation anxiety, for as long as I can remember. I have vivid recollections of becoming hysterical when my parents were not where I expected them to be.
That fear has now transferred onto DH. If he’s not where I think he’s supposed to be when he’s supposed to be there, I become incredibly anxious. The longer it goes on (I.e the later he is/if I can’t get hold of him on his phone etc), the more I spiral into complete panic. I can’t function, I am completely distracted until he calls/walks in through the door.
It’s ridiculous, I know he’s fine and the chances of anything happening to him are really slim, but I cannot get rid of it. I worry that I’m starting to get on his nerves with my constant worry. I call him a lot to set my mind at rest which, I know, is probably really irritating.
Does anyone have any tips/experience in this?

I can't really help you but I am the exact same. I get upset or angry if messages aren't replied to within what I think is a reasonable time, I start to wonder where he is and what he's doing, I become physically ill with worry when he goes out with his friends because I'm terrified he'll get overly drunk and cheat on me (or a million other similar thoughts).

Have you been to the doctors at all? I went on Tuesday, explained my situation and have been prescribed Propranolol, and while I'm not sure they're what I need, it at least showed me that the doctor will take this sort of thing seriously. I'm going back in four weeks and I think I'll need to ask for something to help my racing, anxious thoughts rather than just the physical symptoms.

Thanks for your reply Old Grey Boots. It’s good to know it’s taken seriously by the dr. Maybe that’s the next step for me.
My fears all revolve around him getting hurt; if he’s late from work, the first thing I think is that he’s had a car accident. When he goes out, I worry that he’ll be assaulted/mugged. It’s crazy but the worst case scenario is always the first thing that comes into my mind.
Maybe a visit to the GP is in order!

When something becomes so consuming it's time to see a therapist.
You'll have to work at controlling it but the right person can help manage your symptoms.
You know that your behaviour is fuelled by anxiety but you can't turn the switch off.
If you really want to change your future you need professional help to be free.
Best of luck. If you can afford it go private. Waiting lists can be very long.

I have this too. Always had my parents as my “safe people”. Transferred to my ex but he finished with me in January. It’s horrible isn’t it. I’m on medication but still struggle. I’ve found that rationalising doesn’t always work. I’ve recently tried to “accept” the negative thoughts I have, rather than fighting or trying to rationalise, and it does help. Accepting doesn’t mean you agree with them, but just acknowledge them and try not to dwell. If that makes sense!