Feeling down through.childlessness not through.choice

[claret3189]

So today is one of those daya where i feel sorry for myself. At 29 i find myself in a position of so many, without children not through choice. This year i went through the tough icsi process and was fortunate enough to get pregnant. Unfortunately i miscarried at nearly 6 weeks. This was our only nhs funded cycle so it really was a blow.
Somedays i feel i can maybe imagine a life without children i can lead a fulfilled life in other ways. Some daya its really tough. Just wanted to have a little moment so thanks for listening

I'm so so sorry, hope one day in the future you can get that little one you dream of. My mum has a friend who miscarried 16 times, tried ivf etc before finally concieving and giving birth to a lovely little girl at 48. She had given up, but eventually was blessed with her daughter so you never know, don't feel down it might be in the cards in the future, you're still young.
If not, not sure of your options but surrogacy might work or you might be in a position to afford icsi in the future. If that isn't possible, you've probably heard this a billion times and i know it's not the same, but adopting could be another option.
Hope you feel better soon. Just know there are plenty of wonderful, accomplished and fulfilled women out there who don't have or can't have children. I suspect i'll be one of them too. So no matter what, you're not alone in how you're feeling and there are so many ears ready to listen if you need it. X

So sorry OP. I know how hard it is I had almost come to terms with being childless at 38. I was hard on my self and other people’s throw away comments really hurt. I have two friends who are childless not through choice and both past menopause both have really fully lives regardless of not having children.
Anyway it took me ages to get pregnant i had almost given up hope. I had various tests waited for ages then finally two miscarriages.
I would say get yourself as healthy as possible both physically and mentally before trying again if that’s a possibility and be kind to yourself.
I had blood tests and I had a border line underactive thyroid after the second miscarriage they put me on thyroxine both pregnancies were scary and I could hardly believe I was pregnant until I held my babies in my arms (I had two both conceived naturally in my late 30’s) on the day my DD was born I received a letter asking if we still wanted to stay on the IVF list.
Take care OP 💐 x

bri and waltzing* miracle stories and suggesting adoption really aren’t helpful.

Sorry you’re in this position op. It’s rubbish. There’s a great thread in infertility called “Uber barrens” which is kind and full of people who get it.

I think the above posters were both trying to be kind sympathetic and also offering hope and other points of view. After all 29 is still relatively young to consider yourself childless but this maybe be the case.