In short, my father had a massive heart attack a month ago and has recovered amazingly well. He does have some short term memory loss and a bit of confusion, but considering how he was at the start, he really has done well.
Now the problem is my mother. Dad is now ready to leave hospital, but mum is coming up with all manner of excuses as to why he can't. Money, that she can't cope if he has another....etc etc. I talk to her and suddenly all is ok again. This has happened many times in the past few weeks.
Now I certainly do have sympathy for what she will need to deal with, but she taking everything way too far now. Threats to leave so someone else can care for him, according to my brother she is displaying the same behaviour she was when we were children...almost psychotic to be honest. I just don't know what to do now. I live 100 miles away but my 2 brothers and sister live close to them. My sister is speaking to her tonight and will be totally blunt with her, but i'm not convinced it will work. None of us have a particularly great relatioship with her because of what she was like when we were children (we were utterly terrified of her), but we are very supportive and have offered help.
To be honest, if it weren't for my dad, I would seriously consider cutting her out of my life now.