Is there anything I should do?

[dotnetmum]

Hi, my DS was diagnosed with depression last year and took a year out of college. He is returning to the uni his term. After stay home for a few months, where he stayed in his room most of the time, He is at his shared house now but he is not responding to any of my text or emails and I am getting worried. Added to that, he has moved into a new house and he didn't even give me the address.
The only sign of life I have had:

1. in July he asked for some money to buy WiFi equipment for the house, which I sent him.
2. 10 days ago he sent a happy birthday text to his sister. I feel sad and rejected that he has not responded to me, actually by all accounts he is not very responsive with other either. BUT my main worry is whether he is ok. Is he ready to go back to the course? Does anyone experience with this kind of behaviour? I have been racking my brain but I can't think of anything I can do. Is there anything I should do?

I feel sad and rejected

You should be worried
And if it turns out all ok, try to avoid conveying this to him. He is young and going through a dreadful illness.

Drive down to him
Get contact number of housemates whilst you’re there
Contact be uni

His Uni should have a student welfare service, they might be a good starting point.

I did contact the student services at the uni. But they said without consent they can tell anything. So I just asked them to contact him directly and check that he is signed by to restart the course etc. They said they would do that.

I do have the messenger contact to one of his friends but I have avoided contacting him so far because I am afraid that DS will not like me to sort of go behind his back to his friend.

Send him a message but make clear that it’s sensitive and you would appreciate his discretion

I’d drive there myself

How involved were you in his treatment and recovery whilst he was taking a year out of uni?
Personally I would be getting involved and finding out how he is.
My 27 yr old ds has issues with his MH and was very very poorly with it 2 years ago.
I purposely make a point of finding out how he is if he’s not contacted me for a while. It usually means things are not good.

Sod the course you should be worried. You used the words 'signs of life' yourself. To be that withdrawn from family is a bad sign you need to make sure he is getting treatment. Now.

I would drive there but I don't have his address since he moved a few weeks ago!

OP

You need to contact his housemate. Now. You need to get the address.
You need to start being proactive.

Presumably close to his sister if he sent a card
Contact her.

Come on Op. There are options here

Just to update, I have contacted the housemate, he says DS is doing ok.
But he said he doesn't feel comfortable giving me the address, it should be DS decision, so I didn't insist, because I need him to keep in contact with me.
About last November, his ex girl friend contacted me and told me about DS being in trouble. That was when I first heard about his depression. At the time, I drove over there straight away and shown up and that surprised him.
I get the feeling he doesn't want me to do that again and maybe that's why he is not giving me the address.

Glad he's ok OP. I was like that with my parents when depressed. Perhaps encourage him to accept a phone call with a time limit, say, 1 minute or 2. That way he doesn't feel overwhelmed? Or email, which can be easier
x Hope he feels better soon!