10 month old still not sleeping thru= mummy who is struggling to go on

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hi im sorry to whinge but i need to let it out my anxiety hit a peak yesterday and i was unable to go to work. im a hairdresser and i couldn't face my colleagues never mind any clients.
i started feeling weepy in the morning which then turned into nausea and then panic work i must say are not very helpful even thought i was upfront with what happens to me when i get like this

i dont know what to do my lo had a really bad night she woke every 2 hours for a feed and i feel even more drained

im going to see gp on an emergency appt but ive seen him before and he was really harsh to me and set off my anxiety for a month so im now getting upset about that

my hubby is very supportive but we are moving house and i cant affford to be off work and i feel so out of sorts

any suggestions please

Sorry you are feeling like this Booby. Is your health visitor supportive? If so, request that she refers you to a CPN (Community Psychiatric Nurse) who will be able to help you with the anxiety.

i'm sorry boobylicious that you are going through this.
if your GP is quite harsh are you sure you want to see him again? what are you hoping that he will say/do?

i can sympathise. i've been through this (and still am sometimes ) do you co-sleep? that might be a short term answer.

I'd change your GP if there is any possible way of doing that.

Only thing that got me through my lowest days was GP being so supportive and doing whatever she could to help. She reassured me. Referred me to counsellor. Explained how well I was coping despite everything.

At the very least you need a supportive GP.

{{{hugs}}}

we have been co sleeping but she still wakes loads and she refuses to go to bed before we do plus she is crawling now so cant put her down uin our bed without us as shes d roll off

dont know what im epecting from gp was under the cpn after birth til 6mo but i was classed as ok and sent on my way and tbh have been alot worse since

i need a sick note possibley maybe some kind of medication maybe a referral for cj re her sleep
but im struglling to function now and im assmuing its hand and hand the lack of sleep and the emotional rollacoaster im on

im sat here weeping my lo keeps cuddling me and patting me and looking at me as if to sat what?

Call the CPN directly and explain how you feel. They may be able to come straight out to you or they may need your GP to refer, but at least you will have made them aware. Good luck!

sounds awful My 10 month old still wakes once or twice but that is usually manageable (occasionally throw a wobbly!)

Could your DH help out a couple of nights a week? You could take in turns to settle her, that way you may manage 4 hours in a row.

My DP is planning a few days off and is going to take over at night. I can't settle my DS without feeding him, we don't know if it will work but it's worth a try!

Last night I began a new bedtime routine too, I used to feed DS to sleep in the dark in his room and lower him into his cot asleep.
After bath and books I'm now feeding him in our room and bringing him round a little before putting him in the cot.
It went ok last night so fingers crossed.

Ds woke 2 hourly until he was 8/9 months old and I had days like you too. Lack of sleep is torture and effects everything, I take my hat off to you for working at all. I know i could never have managed it.

Took far too long to post!

I think you're doing the right thing going to the docs, if he isn't helpful please change surgeries. I did this a few years ago and going to the doctors was a completely different experience.

Hi Booby.

Im sorry you feel like this. We probably have baby's of similar ages, DD is 9 and a half months. I breastfed until a week ago and gave up as I felt I had done really well and I didn't want her to become dependant on me. From an early age I managed to get her into a good routine as OH works away all week and I needed my evenings.

I would say that the waking up in the night is a habit that you need to try and break and I don't think co sleeping will help because LO will get used to that and then that will be another habit you have to try and break.

Could you try controlled crying? I understand you must be very tired but this could take a week max and then you may have more sleep!

I would try and get LO settled in his/ her room at bedtime after a milk feed and then out him/ her down awake so they learn how to settle themselves and then if they wake in the night use the controlled crying technique. At 10 months I don't think they really need to be waking up if they are putting on weight and feeding well in the day.

I hope this helps and hope I dont sound too harsh. I understand how you feel being tired, I have been tired the past couple of days and it really affects your whole day. Chin up!!

How did it go?

How are you feeling? x

You have my real sympathy, because my 10 month old is like this, and it is awful. I am watching this thread with interest.

She won't sleep day or night at moment, and it is so so tense making.

Big hugs xxx

keep going - dd1 was like this at 10 months old BUT, at around 11 months she suddenly started sleeping through and she has been the best sleeper of all my children ever since.

well the docotor has signed me off for two weeks with stress/anxiety then he wants to look at either medication/counselling.

lo went down at half eight tonight and she'd didnt sleep afterr 5 so hopefully she'll go to at least 11

im now proper stressing about work but my manager said not to worry just get better.

we've tried controlled crying and i think thats why she now screams when you put her down in her cot because before we tried that she was happy to go down awaker and play for a while then a feed and sleep

so thats not an option she wont self settle she just screams so who knows but i take your comments on board and will lt you all know what happens

well she slept til1 am thenm woke at 3 then started the day at 6 but let me snooze and then we got out of bed at 8 so im feelingmre posisitve my mum has taken her out for the day so im trying to catch up on cleaning and tidyint as we internal pics being taken monday

Hi B. So glad your doctor signed you off, my doctor did the same for me when my twins were the same age, i really needed to just refocus.