PREGNANT AGAIN DD1 ONLY 9 MONTHS....REALLY WORRIED i'LL GET PND AGAIN!

[jakeyscousin]

suffered from PND after DD1 now only 9 months and I've discovered I'm 10 weeks pregnant with number 2! Really worried I'm going to suffer even worse this time with PND as don't really feel back to normal after DD1.GP told me to stop Antidepressants when I told her i was pregnant again as not good for prgnancy number 2. Feel really scared and uncertain about tha future.

There are ads that are safe in pregnancy like prozac. Also having had ond before doesnt mean it will reoccur. I have 3 children and with my ds who is the oldest[3.8yrs] I suffered really bad depression to the point of self harming suicidal etc. Then I had DD1[17mths] was still depressed but it was no wherre near as bad as first time as I knew what to expect etc. DD2 came along[5mths old] and I havent had any depression at all and actually feel on top of the world!!! Email me if you want to chat on [email protected]

Hi I suffered with all 3 of mine however I took prozac 2 weeks b4 baby due so it could get working ,been off it 2 yrs now and im fine everyones different ,my 1st 2 were only 15mts apart so i know how scary that prospect is but you do get thro with a good support network dont be scared we are all here to help

thank you both so much. I spoke to my GP and she did offer me prozac but suggested we wait and see how I go without anything and if I'm not coping then to go back to see her. I guess I'm concerned that I'll always be on tablets if I start taking prozac now and I'll never feel back to my normal self. Our families are very supportive but unfortuantely live hundreds of miles away and are also getting faily old now can't do as much to help. I feel a bit better than I did when I was first diagnosed with PND but I'm scared about how I'm going to cope with 2 LO so close ogether when I've found looking after dd1 such a struggle and immensely stressful. I feel such a failure finding looking after my LO so stressful as so many mothers seem to just take it all in their stride and never seem tired or depressed. Before I had my LO my husband and I were very sociable but since having my LO I've found it hard to go out and meet people again. I've started going back to work part time and I also feel guilty for enjoying being back at work more than I enjoy looking after DD. Really want to enjoy next baby but just keep thinking of ways to minimise tha amount of time I'll have to spen looking after him/ her ie full time at nursery ....then I feel guilty & a bad mother AGAIN for thinking like this! Sorry about the ramble. Its so good to know about mumsnet. If I didn't have mumsnet I don't know what I'd have done!

Hi

I don't have any advice about being PG with a second and PND but I am coming out of PND with DS and really was relieved to read your bit about other mums coping and taking it in their stride! I'm doing really well but DS has gone to nursery for two half days this week and instead of being organised and getting things done while he is away, I just mnet or watch TV then feel soooo crap and a bad parent for doing so....really nice to know am not only one who feels like that when comparing etc...

Really hope you feel better soon and sending hugs your way

HUN LISTEN! we can all be good actresses when required i hid my pnd from everyone infact my parents still dont know the full extent to which i suffered ,i was lucky to have a good gp and hv and i found a group near me called mums in mind run by hv's for mums with pnd .having children is so isolating and never what we all imagine it to be and believe me the feeling of failure and guilt goes with the territory i had to drag myself out kicking and screaming to meet other mums but you must do it shutting yourself away is not the answer and by the way "normal" is a setting on the washing machine not a lifestyle! but i know exactly where you are coming from ,dont shut out your husband too you need to face this as a team after all it takes two to tango! GOOD LUCK