My poor DD is sick - but I can only feel sorry for myself. Any of my fellow emetophobes out there today?

[DaphneHarvey]

She has thrown up four times since 6.00am. DH is here to deal with it, I had to run out of the room on one occasion when I could see she was just about to do it again. I've had 2 valium and DD is now asleep upstairs.

I feel like the lowliest little piece of shite because all I want to do is go out and not come back til next Monday. I just want to run away. I can't bring myself to go upstairs even.

She's the one who is suffering, poor little girl, but I feel sort of angry with her and I really hate myself.

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Poor you. Do you think that you feel this way because its something you can't control and has upset your routine?

I'm not an emetophobe, but I know that there are several on here. Califrau is one, have a search and I am sure you will find plenty of threads.

Sorry to hear your DD is ill, hoping that she is better soon. A friend of mine is an emetophobe, and her childrn know that mummy doesn't do sick, just like Grandad doesn't do blood. Don't beat yourself up about it flower

Look ... you CAN'T help being an emetophobe .. its not like you woke up one morning and said 'oh I know I'll develop an all-enveloping fear of vomit'

it is understandable that you feel angry .. give yourself a break and remember she'll stop soon, in the meantime she has her daddy, and as soon as she's stopped being sick you will be there to stroke her head and tell her its all better

(have you tried CBT?)

I dont understand phobias. I don't udnerstand how the fear of something can be stronger than your need to mother your chlid. Surely this is something you need professional help with?

Glad your dh is there to help. Do you not worry that you will pass the fear on to your child?

Oh, sorry about my post - I didn't know that you have a phobia of sick. This must be really horrible for you. Sorry I cant offer any other advice. Hope someone who is better qualified to help is about.

Yes, am on waiting list for CBT. The valium was prescribed to help me get through any sickness in the family while I'm waiting. Otherwise I would have full-blown panic attacks.

Don't take valium every day LOL!

I deal with blood, snot, poo, tears, tantrums, and irrational behaviour without turning a hair. But this phobia is an absolute bugger.

God you poor thing. They will ask you what you think was the trigger for it in CBT

I've often wondered about the trigger. Not very helpfully I can't really remember.

I am heading to LL in about 10 mins .. can I buy you a coffee?

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Aw thank you Twig. Didn't see your last post. What a lovely thought. Collected O from nursery at 11.30 and dragged him for a very long walk around the Park and the Village. Just keeping out the way really. DD has been sick about 6 times now. She's white as a sheet with a greenish tinge. Back in bed now.

I'd be ok if weren't for the inevitable feeling of doom: O will get it, T might get it and WORST OF ALL I might get it. There's nothing for it but to self-medicate with a generous amount of brandy.

And sorry to hear about your day yesterday LBG. Are they feeling better now?

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Hugs from a fellow sufferer.

I am an emetophobe and can imagine exactly how you are feeling. Do not beat yourself up. You are willing to give CBT a go so you are doing everything you can to get better, you can't do more than that. I had CBT and it did make some difference. I am not cured but I can cope more. Having said that DD is 10 months and has not yet had a tummy bug so I am yet to be tested.

HBG - so sorry for your poor little ones. Hope they both get better very soon. Do you suffer from the same thing as me? - I can sort of cope with other people being sick, so long as I am not hands on IYSWIM, and def. not witness to it or in the same room, but its the thought of ME getting it that really puts the wind up me. In that respect I have a totally and utterly selfish mindset that doesn't sit well with being a parent. This is probably what I feel hardest to deal with.

At the same time, I know that if I were in the same situation as that poor family in Portugal I would do a deal with the devil and agree to be puked over daily, even hourly,for the rest of my life just not to have my 4 year old daughter missing. So that puts it in perspective - yet makes me feel even more inadequate. Sorry, rambling madness. Valium combined with brandy.

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