I had a horrific breakup with an abusive man (mainly emotional, only bery occasionally violent), we broke up around 6 months ago. Since then he took a job on the other side of the country. But he's now visiting my home town every few weeks. He's started sharing personal details of our sex lives, including some outright outrageous lies. This is to people I know well and some work in the same industry as me. He's telling people I used to webcam on the side (No judgment to anyone who does, it's just an outright lie), that I'm a habitual drug user (lie) and a terrible mother to my daughter who is 9. I used to be so level headed but I now feel like I'm in a constant state of anxiety, it's crippling me. I don't go to the gym anymore, I hate even leaving the house to do to work now. I feel like a bag of nerves and on edge 100% of the time, and I don't know how to get myself out of this rut. I've actually started to despise myself. It's a new feeling for me, I've never been in this place in my head before. Any advice on how to get myself out of this rut would be really appreciated.