Is it normal to feel like this?

[mrsgb13]

Sorry for offloading but I don’t feel able to talk to anyone about how I’m feeling and felt this was a way of speaking to other mums.
My LG is almost 8 months old now and recently I’ve noticed more and more that I’m feeling down and having days where I just feel empty and can’t get myself motivated. I feel easily agitated and get worked up over the smallest of things to the point of ending up in tears. My self confidence is at an all time low and I constantly feel like I’m being judged on how good a mother I am. My LG has been a dream baby- she has always fed well, sleeps well, is happy and contented - but this makes me wonder even more why I’m not happy and contented when I feel I ought to be. I just feel like a failure for feeling this way, like I’m not normal.
I went to see my GP as I wondered if I may be suffering from PND but he simply sent me home telling me to watch a YouTube video (I kid you not!) which made me feel even more like an idiot.
So I just wondered if there were any other mums out there who have felt the same and could offer any advice? Thank you

Hi lovely , trust me the way you feel is totally normal and common in the early stages . I felt exactly the same and like I'm the only one in the world. It took me some time but eventually I got to understand that MOST mums feel exactly like this at the beginning . Having a baby is a massive change and it's takes time for the emotions to settle and for the maternal bond to develop. It does not happen overnight. I am astonished by the attitude of your GP, is there a chance you can see another one ? For now make sure you talk to someone. Even if it's not a professional ...and I promise you, sooner or later you'll get better and you will fully enjoy mortherhood. This first stage is a nightmare and probably the worst time of a woman's life. But it won't las forever. Also please read this post when you have a minute, it should give you the answers you look for...Take care hun, and don't worry - everything is going to be alright xx mumsjourney.com/2018/03/06/how-do-you-know-you-have-postnatal-depression/

I think there are shades of grey when it comes to 'normal' mrsg. I have a 10 month old DS myself and have recently been able to admit to myself that I have some degree of PND. I am already on ADs for anxiety and they have just been increased.

I did go to the doc in January, suffering high anxiety but my family were convinced it was just tiredness/'normal.' Eventually I got sick of feeling so constantly bleak, as if the future was just dark, with no hope of happiness and nothing to look forward to. I just thought, this can't be normal. Not for this long. Or if it is normal, then I need to talk to someone about how I can deal with it. I waited 7 months.

Is there another GP at your practice? Could you request to speak to the perinatal mental health team? You'd think at least your GP would ask you to do the Edinburgh test. You don't have to take ADs but talking to someone impartial could really help with how you feel.