Private mental health appointment for dd advice please!

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We have an appointment with a private psychology service on Monday for my dds anxiety and possible depression.... She's not yet as bad as some on here but decided I couldn't wait.... We tried CBT (self help) and my dd did not engage Any advice about how to get the most out of the appointment.... We were out to lunch today celebrating a family birthday when my dd started over breathing, I went with her to the loo and a got here breathing slowly, yesterday she was doing some drawing.... And kept saying it was terrible, then asked me what I thought.... And I said it was good, to which I got a full scale meltdown /tantrum.... Because I was not enthusiastic enough about it being good, she the explained she was worried she would not do well in Art next year... Sorry rambling a bit..... Is she really struggling or is she a spoilt brat who I am over indulging.... Struggling to know how to act for the best.... With support and understanding or should I just be very strict and stop tolerating g all this nonsense.... So far I have been as far as I am able kind and supportive.

You know what. OP, nobody knows the answer. I am in a similar situation with DH and in a different way, DD.
DD had private help with ADHD and if you can afford to do this you probably should, because it's all part of having your child's back and being her advocate and support.
DH would not engage with either meds or counselling for anxiety and depression and says they don't work, which means they require effort!
Private care really helprd DD because when you get into that consultation the clinician has time for the patient and isn't trying to get you out of the door because of an impossible workload.
Keep talking to her and tell her there's plenty of time; it's more important to get well than anything else. Exams and uni will wait.
DD is a creative and will start uni at 20, and hopefully will be ready to fulfil her potential. If she had gone 2 years earlier I dread to think what would have happened.
I have spent countless hours talking to school, college, NHS and private sector healthcare. You have to be there to be her interface with this stuff until she can do this comfortably herself. Let her take time and remove some of her pressure.
The appointment will take care of itself.

Well she has asked for counselling so I don't know if this is going g to be good or not.... Not sure if she thinks counselling is a magic wand we will see