Online anxiety/CBT courses for 16 yo?

[DoinItForTheKids]

Hi

Anyone know of any online resources for a teenager who's anxiety has peaked recently with nausea, gagging and vomiting bouts (this is when out with friends, family she knows and loves, eating out...).

I CANNOT get her to go to see a therapist, she does NOT want to talk about her feelings and honestly I actually in some ways agree that this might not be the best for her at the moment - I actually think it could break her.

What I need to do, for now, is get her tools that she can use to better control her anxiety, and avoid the gagging and vomiting.

Ideally I'd like a proper structured course but I am also too aware that the's so many charlatans out there online promising the earth and not delivering. I've recommended apps to her but honestly I don't really think she'll use them so she needs a course. She's adamant for example the breathing techniques don't work (they do, but you have to practice!!) which just shows she doesn't know as much as she might think.

However, we're due to go to the first face to face appointment with a CBT therapist next week and already I can tell, she's not going to go when it comes to it; she just doesn't want to sit in a room with someone and 'talk about her feelings'.... I'm in two minds but I am erring towards thinking that forcing her isn't actually the right approach. I don't normally force her to do things (she usually doesn't need it anyway), we go for a make decisions factoring the likely consequences approach and I fear that it could damage her to force her.

Anyway, anyone with any ideas of resources or websites or therapists who will do a course over email or whatever, that would be really useful for me to know about.

Thank you.

My GP refers to an online CBT service which was useful. I 'spoke' to the therapist via a chat transcript and was given resources to use and exercises (homework) to do.

You may even be able to self refer in some areas.
www.surreyheathccg.nhs.uk/doc-engagement/mental-health/466-ieso-health-patient-information/file

My CBT therapist recommended this

www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/consumers.cfm

But you sound like a lovely mum - just keep gently encouraging. I am autistic and don’t like talking about feelings (I don’t like it as I can’t do it - I know I feel sad, happy, anxious etc but I don’t know why, and never know how to talk about it). But it would have been nice to know that someone recognised my struggles and tried to help. So keep doing that.

Oh thanks so much guys. I'm in the UK and can call my local GP and see if they can refer for online therapy. I'll also scout around on t'Google and see if there's any self referral stuff going on. Thanks for all these ideas.

Thank you - DD doesn't have autism or any other issues other than this anxiety thing which is borne of long brutal eradication of her self esteem, loss of contact with her father who just can't be arsed to see her, turbulent friendship groups at school, the list goes on. This latest bout of anxiety-related symptoms is now affecting her enjoyment of things that she should really - enjoy! I fear for her getting through her outward bound college trip or managing to start college if she's gagging and trying not to throw up. When she's like this she can't even speak for fear of barfing - then people think she's being rude. Of course, if someone's bought her a meal or a drink, she might not be able to eat/drink it AND not be able to say thanks for the food/drink - because she might throw up if she does! I don't want her ending up associating control of food/eating with control of her anxiety and ending up with anorexia (not that I'm sure these link together in the way I've described) but even without that, I feel it needs sorting now. If she can't contemplate unpicking the abject misery she's suffered at times over the last 10 years then we can at least sort out the anxiety symptoms, hopefully.

Hi
This is classic anxiety symptoms

I don’t know what age she is the younger age of teen or the older end of teen

There’s a website No more panic
It as a free cbt course. And there’s lots of people who have different forms of anxiety and all different ages from young to old
But when it comes to anxiety age doesn’t matter as most of the symptoms somebody will suffer with

Hope you can get her to appt, she probably feels she’s the only one who’s like this and feels embarrassed telling people.

I’m 60 and still get people when I tell them. that say
What do you mean and look at me as if I’m crazy for the bodily symptoms I get with anxiety
I started suffering at 22

Hope you can get her there, the younger the better

Thanks for this granadagirl. She 16. I will definitely look at your website recommendation - much appreciated.

For now she's registered with Kooth and we're also looking at some private Skype counselling that she found and we'll see how we get on.

I hope she manages to get something and feel better. TBH I don't think online and skype really help that much if you are really bad. I've heard they work for mild or moderate anxiety but for what you describe, in person therapy would be better so they can tailor it to her specific needs. CBT is pretty practical, it's not just sitting around talking feelings but even so, the relationship with the therapist is everything. My biggest breakthrough to date happened off the back of something my therapist said, just in casual conversation. It was just a throwaway comment but really got me thinking and 2 days later I was shopping and it just hit me "fuck me, he's right!"

didyousee I do understand what you're saying about face to face but if the person cannot cope with face to face, they can't partake of that format.

Maybe, in the future, she can go onto that type of counselling, but at the moment it's just not possible. I'm really glad it worked for you and gave you a good lightbulb moment that helped you with something.