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[NAB3]

having a really hard time at the moment and can't see how to get out of it. so so tired, currently have really bad back ache. hubby at work until very late and 3 lovely children who i can't handle.

how old are your children? can they self-entertain while you rest for a bit? TV is a great thing on days/times like this.

its 4pm, bedtime cant be that far off...

if you can, try to prioritise what you need to do, and then do it again. things can wait until you can feeling better.

hugs

you're not alone and you've come to the right place for comfort and support

oh dear.

Have you told dh how you feel? He may not be able to do anything ( so will be hard for him!) but just sharing it can make it a bit more bearable.

Id it something a day to yourself would fix or do you feel its a bit more than that?

Could the older child help you out for a bit - entertaining the younger ones for a littl while. Are they old enough to go on the Cbeebies website for 15 mins while you do tea? Perhaps do cold teas or pizza and salad for a couple of days to make it less for you cooking in the kitchen?
Promise yourself a nice relax in the bath once they're in bed and get some nice chocolates to treat yourself and DH too. Then have a chat with DH and ask him how he can help you.
It must be hard with a bad back - do you family and friends who could ease the pressure with the children for a while?

Now I feel like crying that people who don't even know me care enough to try and help with ideas.
The kids are 6, 3 and nearly 2 and have just started their tea. Just pasta and cheese (same as yesterday ) as the day didn't go to plan.
DH knows but everything is hectic at work and he would come home if he could.
I definitely need some time to myself. I had my hair cut last week and apart from the fact that I hate it it is wonky so one side is 1 inch longer than the other.
I am on anti depressants and iron tablets and feel like sh%t.
I have no idea why my back hurts.
I miss my Nan.

The kids just don't do as they are told. The eldest one laughs or gives me looks, though I know he needs me more than he lets on. DD age 3 just nearly choked on her pasta as they were being silly and DS! age 6 thinks it is funny.

How long have you been on ADs?

(in the meantime, stick em all in the garden)

months now. have had pnd after every child and and with the last one.

Ah, so youre an expert then ( - a bit like me).

I think you may just be having a more general crap few weeks then. I sometimes find it difficult to remember that this happens to everyone, that Im not completely bonkers and just because Im taking ADs, life is still not going to be without its hicups.

Hello again NAB3 - certainly don't worry if you feed them pasta and cheese for a week! It won't matter a jot.
Do you think it's worse as it's 1/2 term so you've got all 3 instead of DS being at school? I know I find it 10 times harder when DD is off. The only time I feel like I'm coping sometimes is when she's at school and DS is at playschool and then I don't do any housework and then feel even more guilty.
The only way I coped when I felt like you was to look forward to tiny things, no matter how insignificant, like a cup of tea while they were watching tv or a call to my mum whilst they were eating tea. Anything to reduce the stress and the monotony!
Are you finding the anti D's generally owrk or do you think that perhaps your GP could change them to see if that makes you feel any better?ps - don't feel guilty about them watching more tele when you're feeling like this - videos, DVDs and cbeebies really helped me out regularly!

The ADs have worked and maybe it just feels worse as I have my period and it is half term. I love DS1 being at home though as I love not having to see anyone as I don't have any friends at the school but in another way being in reminds me how lonely I am. I don't have any parents and my Nan died 2 years ago. I only have 1 friend locally and people have drifted away since I have had PND. Kids are now in bed. I am almost tidy and in 15 minutes I will have some dinner.

the kids are in bed? you better put your feet up and REST. dont neglect you

Yep, kids in bed by 6.30. Just waiting for my dinner but feel a bit hyper so might do some tidying. Not much on the box tonight.

i know what you mean about there being nothing on tv.... dh isnt home til late tonight.... just relax tonight and remember, tomorrow really is another day (i would be lost as a parent without thinking that!!)