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How do you do help a stranger ?

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anitagreen · 03/07/2018 12:15

There's a woman who lives in my area who clearly needs help for around 6 years she has worn the same outfit her hair same style the lot clearly doesn't bath or re dress. She is always eating out of bins she carries a carrier bag around and constantly fills it up out of bins and sits there eating it or drinks she finishes them.
She looks dead behind her eyes she's absolutely filthy she must be under some sort of service but how do you report someone to adult social services for help when they don't speak. All weather she is out rummaging through bins some things he collects like McDonald's boxes etc just seems very sad she must be around 40/50 I think she does have accomadation just what do you do?

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Vitalogy · 05/07/2018 09:14

Maybe this is the life she has chosen.

Could you give SS a call to see what they advise?

When you say she doesn't speak. Have you tried to speak to her and she just doesn't answer?

Vitalogy · 05/07/2018 09:15

@anitagreen

Getoffthetableplease · 05/07/2018 09:17

Maybe get in touch with your local food bank? See how someone would get referred, if they know any other contacts tp help etc?

anitagreen · 05/07/2018 10:15

Hey thanks for the replies! She just stares back at you, my friend asked her if she wanted a clean tea before to drink and she nodded then just stood still and wouldn't move time we got the tea she'd gone.
She is absolutely caked in crime though and there is no way she doesn't see any one who must be in a position to help? It's just really strange I've even seen her in the pouring thunderstorm going through a bin eating soggy food. It's really distressing actually to see I think I wil ring adult social services but I don't know her name, no idea where she lives other than has to be in borough just hope they can help?

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anitagreen · 05/07/2018 10:16

I imagine she's on benefits to recieve housing benefit as once it gets to around 10pm you don't see her but this is me only assuming she has a house I'm not 100% certain but that's always been the way for years.

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Vitalogy · 05/07/2018 12:08

Maybe some of the other neighbours or local shopkeepers might know something about her. You could ask them I suppose. Or watch where she goes. How old would you guess she is? She understands what you say then re the tea offer.

The hidden lives behind people.

anitagreen · 06/07/2018 01:26

That's a good idea I reckon she's around late 40s I will ask about her I just can't believe no ones picked up on very shocking

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Vitalogy · 06/07/2018 04:38

She could be under the radar but then again other people or the services may have tried in the past to help her out but with her not wanting to engage.

I hope she gets the help if she wants it. You can but try OP.

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