Painful empathy- co dependant?

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Hi, I was wondering if anyone else had experience of feeling painful empathy towards people?

I have always had this and it doesn't feel healthy. A couple of examples. At the moment there's a woman in my team whose heart is in the right place But she has a couple of habits which really grate on everyone and these are: butting in when anyone (including superiors) are speaking, coming across the boss talking to another member of the team and joining in the conversation, even if the conversation is nothing to do with her, not doing what is asked (sometimes the opposite)
There are many more examples but I've noticed lately that she has been slagged off constantly and I worry that she picks up on the bad vibes as she's lovely, no one is perfect and she's still human and doesn't deserve to be hated. The problem is that some members of the team take her behaviour personally as though she's imagining she is better than them. I genuinely feel for everyone involved and just feel sad that it's come to us all feeling exasperated.
My sister is an artist and some people commissioned her to do a portrait of their family and after months of painting they've told her they don't like it and I feel really heart broken on her behalf.

The list goes on, my grandparents are old and I feel so sorry for them when I think of their health problems and their loneliness.

It brings me down a lot.

Do you think this is codependency?

Thank you.

I don't think it's codependency. Some people are more empathetic than others. I feel my sisters pain at her disabled child to be excruciating. I also feel genuinely upset at even those charity tv ads. For me I think it's an inability to deal with my own problems and a sort of survivors guilt at having an 'easy life' compared to others. I feel guilty that my child is healthy.

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Sorry for leaving the dot this morning, had to get ready for work.

I can see how this is troubling for you.
You sound like a kind sensitive and thoughtful person, we need more in the world like you.
I think the thing is, you'll have to try and keep mindful that you need looking after too. Make sure you get rest and relaxation, treat yourself and recharge your batteries, It must be draining for you.

I'd avoid the news programs, it's the same thing that's been going on from time immemorial, so why trouble yourself with it.

It's a gift and a burden sometimes. Best wishes