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Mental health

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I don’t know why anyone would be my friend.

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GandTthankyou · 28/06/2018 21:33

I think it’s because I’m going back to work soon. I don’t know. I feel like I’m the most uninteresting person. I don’t know why people are my friends. I don’t know why my husband would want to be with me. I used to be fun but now I don’t think I am.

I appear confident but really I hate social situations. Especially the stupid small talk on the school run.

I just feel so dull. Is this a normal stage of returning to work? Perhaps I am really dull and should just sh.

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mumonashoestring · 28/06/2018 21:40

It's pretty normal in any situation that's going to put you under pressure but if you're not careful it can take over - it's anxiety basically becoming that nasty little voice that says 'you can't' or 'they don't like you'. It's a lying little bastard and it knows nothing about you. Do you have anyone you can talk to about it?

picklemepopcorn · 28/06/2018 21:40

I don't imagine you are dull. You sound anxious. I am always surprised (a few) people want to be my friend. I find it helps to Fake it TIL I make it. Don't think too hard, just drift along on the surface.

Herja · 28/06/2018 21:44

I often feel like this. To be fair, a lot of people don't like me. Friends i make - though few - I've stuck with for decades though, so I can't be all bad.

Everyone is dull really. We just find people who are similarly minded. Work I found a work persona easier for, I was just never myself, it made everything easier.

ILoveDolly · 28/06/2018 21:45

Don't over think it, if they are friends with you then they like you just fine the way you are. Perhaps you are feeling anxious as others have suggested and those negative voices are taking over. Be kind to yourself, perhaps spend some time talking with someone who will be kind and lovely to you.

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GandTthankyou · 28/06/2018 23:15

Thank you all so much for your replies. It’s funny isn’t it - I hadn’t even thought anxiousness was what it was. But now you’ve said that, well it makes sense. I don’t remember feeling like this with dd1 so it feels very big right now.

I’m not a very good talker (about proper things)to real life people. But I have one friend who I will talk to.

Thank you for helping me make a plan x

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