For background, my mum has suffered with depression for as long as I can remember. About 10 years ago she suffered a breakdown and it led to her finally seeking help and she's been on and off (but mostly on) medication since. I've always supported her as well as I can and we have a very good relationship.
I have a two year old and we (DD, husband and I) are living with my parents while our new house is renovated. We've been here 9 months.
Tonight she has come home very drunk and sobbing about how my DD is her world, how the only joy she gets is playing with her, she wants to do everything for her etc. Went on to say she was upset when my DH stopped them playing last night and how devastated she was. He came to get her for her bath - not deliberately stop her. She also said she's been suicidal because DD hasn't been very affectionate with her lately.
We've had a few issues since we've moved in with her trying to take a parenting role but this conversation has made me realise I need advice on how to set clearer boundaries. I love that she loves my DD, I really do. But I also know she needs to understand that we're her parents. I'm also worried about the impact on her when we move out.
If anyone has any advice or experiences they could share I would be very grateful.