Hi, I'm new here so sorry if its a bit long!
Im 25 and live with DM. Work full time (40hrs) have a DP and small group of friends. DM has agoraphobia (she goes out when she can be taken and dropped off but panics at the thought of not being able to get to and from places safely which means she can't even walk to the shop on the corner) and has a friendwho she sees once every few months, if that. She's had CBT which I took days off work and rearranged shifts to take her, but after her second visit she said it wasnt helping and refused to go back.
Everytime we talk about it it ends in tears and she just tells me to move out and gets angry, but I'm really struggling with it. She hasnt worked in years and can't leave the house and has absolutely no interavtion with people so whenever I'm at work I feel guilty, then when I'm with DP or friends I feel terrible and end up leaving to go home early so she isnt by herself much longer, and spend my days off taking her out, with her saying quite often it feels like day release from prison.
I know I sound selfish, but I'm just struggling with working full time and having no time to myself because I'm juggling work, making sure DM is ok and squeezing in seeing friends so they don't get sick of me. I'm really worried about the future - I dont want to move out now but eventually it will have to happen, and everytime I mention it it ends in an argument where Im told to just leave and she'll have to cope by herself when she can't even leave the house by herself.
Sorry about the wrambling, but has anybody had agoraphobia? Or been around someone who has? How do you make them get help when they dont want to?