Not sure if this is normal

[purplehaze]

Hi everyone

Just been reading a few of your posts and glad to hear I'm not the only one feeling like rubbish. I've just had my second child (first one is 4 years old) and had a fantastic birth and a baby girl which was fantastic too, but I feel so down all the time. I'm hardly someone that crys but I seem to be crying at least every other day now. I'm taking everything out on my husband as he seems so happy and thtas driving me mad!!! We recently had a hge debt problem but sort of got some of it sorted on a debt management plan, but am now on a really tight budget. I had a horrible birth with my first and felt bad for a few days but this time I was on a real high now I'm on a real downer. Alot of my family suffer from depresion so I keep thinking that i'm heading that way. I've always been a very positve person esspecially that both my parents had drink problems so I had quite a hard upbringing, but I've always been able to cope with that, but now finding it hard thinking back to my childhood. Sorry to go but have no one I can trust to talk to about it.
xxx

Hello purplehaze. Congratulations on your new baby. How old is she?
I don't think it's unusual to feel deeply crappy with a new baby, but it's worth monitoring your state of mind, especially if over a period of time (say a week or so) you're feeling more down than up.
Have you told your GP/HV how you're feeling?

Have you told your dh or family how you are feeling? I think you should talk to your GP/HV about how you are feeling as they can advise on the best course of treatment. Even just talking to a friend, partner or family member can help loads. Just remember that you are not alone, and you've always got us MNetters to talk to. And as bakedpotato said alot of mothers experience PND and they also get better too. BIG HUGS!

How are you doing, Purplehaze?

Hiya

My little one is 10 weeks old. I seem to have ok days and then bad days. Today is an ok day and yesterday I just seemed to cry over such silly things and then start feeling really sorry for myself which I hate as some people have much worse problems. I always am the strong one for mum etc. I sometimes think about talking to a councillor about things like the past but not sure if I can.

Well my husband is out tonight so I'm going to sit in front of the telly with some ice cream.

Love to you all
x

Poor you, the sleep deprivation is much harder with the second one as you don't get any down time, but do monitor ir, it sounds like it could be PND so keep talking, there is nothing worse than having to go through it alone. I wish i'd had MN when I had PND life would have been much better for me, DS and DH. If it does continue just know that it doesn't have to be like this and that you can get 'help' - awful word i know - but YKWIM. Good luck and enjoy the ice cream xx

PH

Councellers are very good, and well used to talking to people who are uncomfortable with talking about the things they need to say.

RE the crying over nothing - are you having any happy moments - you know, when you can watch a funny program amd giggle at it? What do you do for fun?