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Anxiety and issues with mother in law

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Jadey185 · 07/06/2018 14:25

I have really bad anxiety and have done so for years. My fiancée tried his best but doesn’t understand it and when I have panic attacks he doesn’t know what to do and ends up making the situation worse.
My fiancée owes me quite a bit of money of which he took a year and a half ago without my consent. I was going to report him to the police but his mother assured me she would sort out the situation. I waited and waited and still no money finally in February she gave me a third of the money back and told me to take it or leave it. She told me I wouldn’t have a leg to stand on as her son is my partner despite the account being only in my name and all the assets in there were mine. Out of this money I’ve had to sort out a deposit on a house, furniture and items for the baby which I feel is unfair as I felt blackmailed into taking the small amount. I am now struggling financially and not sure what to do. I messaged his mother three weeks ago to say this and she never replied. Now she is apparently calling me all the names under the sun and having a go at my fiancée about me and apparently she’s also making a list of what I owe her. Which to be honest can’t be anything as I’ve never borrowed money off her or asked for it. She came to the house shouting At my fiancée on the weekend she still hasn’t spoken to me.
I’m due to give birth in two weeks and I’m so stressed out and she’s making the situation worse. I have to stay in hospital for a few days after the baby is born due to my meds. Do you think it’s reasonable that I ask her to stay away for a bit? I can’t cope with anymore stress.

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RunningBean · 07/06/2018 14:38

Perfectly reasonable. I wouldnt be seeing her at all unless she apologised and seemed sincere, and by default she then wouldn't be seeing the baby unless that happened, I wouldn't be leaving my newborn in order for someone who's been bitching about me to see her!

Bowlofbabelfish · 07/06/2018 14:39

I wouldn’t ever be seeing her again, tbh.

Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname · 07/06/2018 14:41

If you are still with him why did you discuss it with his dm and not sort it with him? Involving her in your private business won't end well.
And he sounds a real catch.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 07/06/2018 14:54

Neither of them are very nice are they? What sort of man steals from his pregnant girlfriend?

Jadey185 · 07/06/2018 21:36

I wasn’t pregnant when he took the money not that I’m making excuses for him because I’m not. The problem is my fiancée is her “baby” and she has spoilt him rotten and always bailed him out and she thinks it’s my responsibility to do the same. She’s bought the baby all of two outfits and so has he. She thinks the house, baby and food shop is my responsibility to sort out.
I did speak to my fiancée but as we were staying with her at the time she heard us arguing and waded in when I threatened to go to the police. That’s the only reason it’s been discussed with her.

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