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my mum has completely given up on life.

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AmberCurtain · 07/06/2018 00:09

I don't know where to begin, it's been a mess for so long.
She has a lot of physical pain/symptoms which I don't doubt feel really but I am convinced they are linked to her MH. She almost acts like she wants to be ill......if someone else is coming down with something, she's got it too. She's constantly at the gps having tests!
She has stopped sleeping in her bed and now sleeps on the sofa, often not even bothering to change into pjs.
She lays down all day and has horrendous muscle wastage in her legs to the point that she gets out of breath walking to the loo. She's not interested in ANYTHING apart from her books and art......which is good in a sense but unhealthy in its intensity. If I go to her house she won't stop reading to engage in conversation with me. If any one tries to point this out she just flips out and screams at them.
She looked after my dd today whilst I went to work and dd was a little bit naughty in the 30 mins before I arrived......my mum screamed at me and told me "she just wants to retire in peace" as if I was ruining her retirement by her looking after my 10 yr old for a few hours.
I don't feel like I have a mum any more. she can't be bothered with anything. she my children's only grandparent and they are missing out on so much but she insists there is nothing wrong. She has lost her social skills, she shouts at people in public and looses her temper, she has no manners any more, talks over the top of people, gets very impatient if she has to wait or someone is slow. Her behaviour is odd at times. I dread taking her out sometimes incase she causes a scene. I can't raise it with her because she goes into melt down and tells me no one appreciates her and she can't do anything right, very woe is me.

She never used to be like this.

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Letitgo2018 · 07/06/2018 00:13

Hi Op that sounds really confusing and upsetting.
There could be a few reasons why your mum has changed. Sometimes physical,illnesses can affect people 's energy levels and mood - does she gave anything diagnosed or would she see the dr for a checkup?
Does she have last history of mental health issues or drinking alcohol?
Has she changed gradually or suddenly?

What do you think is really going on, could you ask her?

Jackyjill6 · 08/06/2018 12:09

You say she is constantly at the GP having tests. I wonder if it would be worth you ringing her doctor to give him a picture of what you have described above. Obviously he won't want to tell you confidential information, but the fact that she never used to be like this means something is going on which is altering her behaviour.

AmberCurtain · 08/06/2018 23:43

when I say she never used to be like this, it's all been getting worse over a long period of time but not quick enough to be blatantly obvious. She just looks so old and frail :-( she's only in her 60s!

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