What to do?!?!!?

[Kate8989]

Ok...... so I’ve had a shit year so far
The thought of ending it all crops up in my thoughts everyday. I was very close to calling the Samaritans yesterday. The problem is.. what’s causing me to feel this way is a physical problem that will take a LONG time to sort out and could impact on my ability to have children. So I’m feeling lost about my life as children is all I want!!!!
I don’t get on with anti depressants and counselling will just tell me what I already know. I’m wanting the impossible and for all this to go away- HELP x

Hi there Kate sorry to hear about your difficult year. I just wanted to say that counselling or rather psychotherapy with a qualified therapist is much more than just exchanging information- it's about acknowledging and releasing emotions, looking at the impact on your functioning and relationships, accepting yourself, being kind to yourself, looking at your support network , etc. It's all about taking a horrible situation and processing it , expressing it, finding a way through it and forward.

The problem is.. what’s causing me to feel this way is a physical problem that will take a LONG time to sort out and could impact on my ability to have children.

Without knowing what it is, it's really hard to think of anything helpful to say! Could you post the problem? Someone might know of a way around it, or have been through it too?

Otherwise - please have a huge hug.

@WhatsGoingOnEh- sorry I’ve been diagnosed with endometriosis. Awaiting a second op, it’s in my bowel, uterosacral ligaments and pouch of Douglas so bloody painful places!!!!! If it wasn’t causing me so much pain I’d leave it and just TTC but I need relief from the pain and surgery is the only way... x

Oh you poor thing. I have no idea what a Pouch of Douglas is, but I'm clenching in sympathy!

Someone much more wise than me will be along soon, hopefully. (You could also start a thread on the health boards, maybe?) Do they offer you egg-freezing as a possible way to conceive children later, with a surrogate?

I'm really sorry, it must be like the most evil kind of catch-22, as living normally in that much pain must be impossible.