Is it normal to find parenting hard?

[malificent7]

I love dd but I have always found motherhood tough. I love the child but I don't love being aum.I guess.

She is very strong willed and we clash. We do have to laugh together and I love to spoil her but its always a relief when I get me time.

Then I feel like I'm wishing the best years of her life away. The safest thing is that dd longs for a sibling but I just couldn't cope with another... Feeling lacking as everyone pops out another baby with no stress at all.

A mum sorry..

Absolutely normal! I love DD9 but she pushes me & DH to our absolute limit! It is incredibly tough. DH has said more than once that he wishes we’d never adopted her. I have asked for advice on a different thread tonight actually as DD is awaiting an ASD assessment & we are really struggling with how to manage her meltdowns & general behaviour. Me time is wonderful!

I don't know if it's normal, but I also hate being a mum. I keep wishing that my DS was a bit older so he could sit and play by himself to give me a break, or eat solid food so I don't always have to be the one who feeds him. I think about the free time I'll have when he goes to school and feel guilty for wishing away his baby years. It's not that I don't love him, it's just that I have no "me" time and it's exhausting.

Absolutely it is. What else is 24/7 responsibility for 18 years, always changing with a lot riding on the outcome? If you’re thinking parenting through, that’s half the challenge but it’s quite standard to find it stressful anyway.

Thanks for the replies...I always feel like I'm a bad mum too as I don't enjoy every second of it...
I went to see a film the other night and had to take dd to the loo during the best bit
...gah!

How old is your DD?

I do find parenting hard from time to time. It comes and goes with my kids ages. I hated it when my eldest was a baby and found it hard until he was about 18 months. I had my youngest when eldest was 2 are really enjoyed that time. Youngest was a tough child between 1 and 2, but I'm really enjoying the stage he's at now he's 3. My eldest now is only 5 but like a stroppy teenager and I find having the two of them in the same room exhausting right now!

I do still need time to myself though. I'm quite a solitary person. I have some quiet time when they go to school and nursery in the day. I also make sure I get some time alone to myself most weekends.

Of course it is normal!

I was in our local High Street today and a Mum was losing it at her (I presume) dc. She'd just had enough today. I obviously don't know the reason, but I had every sympathy - I think most parents have been there at some point.
Nobody enjoys doing something all the time. Parenting especially as it is so long term - no weekends off, or 'clocking off' time, like you get with a job. No breaks like you would get a holiday with a job. It is hard work. Lots of responsibility, lots of 'doing your best' then worrying if you've done the right thing. Lets be honest, lots of humdrum dullness in amongst the nice bits.
I'm sure you are doing a fine job - the very fact you are worrying about it indicates that

Yes it's hard!! I see it on so many threads, we all have things that push our buttons in a major way and in parenting you can't escape from it. My auntie informed me whilst I was pregnant that " the first 42 years are the hardest"

Dd is 9-10 in June and puberty is kicking in.

With bells on!

I single parent and I love my (infrequent) nights off.

They're my kids - I'd walk over hot coals for them but they are exhausting. I am permanently physically and emotionally drained.