Helping my DD with her partner.

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My DD’s partner is depressed, always has been. (I think he is Bipolar as he is so up and then so down.) The problem my DD has is that due to his job he cannot go to the doctor if it is on his record he will most definitely lose his job. I am trying to give her advice on how to deal with him like setting boundaries of acceptable behaviour etc but I wondered if there are any books/websites available in the UK that she can buy/visit to give her tips to help him but mostly to help her look after herself.

Ditetry intervention?
Perhaps look into a supplement: lithium orotate
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2248201/

Diet for him, not her

Thanks, I will get her to take a look.

How sure are you about that losing his job thing? I'm a bit suspicious

Newdaylight. Very sure, he sometimes works offshore and it is a real no no I’m afraid. I am very experienced in mental health but I want to help my daughter to help herself as well as him and need some tips on what she can do as she is a real cynic where mental health is concerned. She is very much a “pull yourself together” type of a girl so I need books etc to help her understand what he is going through and what his behaviour is doing to her.

Medical records are confidential, an employer wouldn’t be able to access them, unless he is deemed unable to keep himself safe, in which case he is probably too unwell to work. It would be discriminatory to fire someone purely because they have a mental health condition, could it be that he has told your daughter this in order to avoid seeking help?

Would going private mean it was on the record?

If a broken leg meant you couldn't do your job, you'd still get it fixed.

Sorry posted too soon - he still needs medical help even if there may be (as above, I'm pretty sure that's not true as it would be discriminatory etc) a chance it could affect his job. If he has a medical condition that means he is unsuited to that particular type of work, then he should consider changing jobs. His health should come first and depression is not usually a one off so this could affect him for the long term future if he doesn't get help for it now.

fusionchefgeoff I do know the best course of action is to get professional/medical help but he won't and that is that for the time being. What I do want to do though is protect my daughter from being dragged down with him on his spiral of self destruction so wanted tips to help her understand how to look after herself and not be all consumed with his problems. She doesn't understand MH issues and says the wrong thing at the wrong time and the situation escalates into full blown rows. I am trying to help her but if she is unwilling to understand his issues I can't see anything for them going forward if you see what I mean. I thought someone may know of a good book/website that would help her just try and see things from his perspective.