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Bumping in to someone you were awful to in the past

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Juniper33 · 21/05/2018 14:03

So I was at a baby class today, which we’ve attended for about 4 months, attending about half the classes for one reason or another, it’s a structured class but drop in and very casual; some regulars every week and a lot who attend when we can. We arrived and I spotted a girl I went to school with - have not seen her there before and seems we have mutual acquaintances.

Now I was not that pleasant at school, I was persecuted by bullies daily and had an awful home life (alcoholic parents who were workaholics too - so either working or drunk and their focus was never on their children), which is no excuse but I do feel guilty because I was not nice/ nasty to this girl / now lady, when at school. I feel guilt that we never made friends (we were best friends when very young, but she changed junior school and we never became friendly again throughout high school)

Even though 10 years has passed, we live in the same town having relocated from Tamworth to Leicestershire. Neither of us acknowledged each other and both got on and enjoyed the class. My Aibu is - should I let sleeping dogs lie and get on with our lives or should I apologise and explain my situation?

I should add that leaving school and Tamworth were the best things to happen to me, I have a much happier life than I ever could have there and I am completely different person. I haven’t returned in years, and have recently cut my toxic mother from my life - which has been a very positive move.

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BigFuckingManatee · 21/05/2018 14:45

Approach it honestly with her and express that you want to apologise for your past behaviour. I once received an apology from an ex-classmate and I really appreciated it. I'm not one to hold grudges and her apology seemed really genuine.

mummyme100 · 21/05/2018 18:25

Thanks for your reply. I guess we might be at the same class for a while so I'd like to clear the air. I hope she is as gracious as you!

chavtasticfirebanger · 22/05/2018 22:08

I wonder if your memories of how you treated her are worse than how she remembers them. I'd go and say hi-depending on the response I'd say 'look I'm sorry I wasn't nice to you, I'm much nicer now' kind of thing. If it was junior school then you weren't even teenagers!

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