Can't get my head round it - no more babies...

[Mollydolly]

I have two dd's, 6 & 4. I head severe pre eclampsia with dd1 who was born at 29 wks but has no problems, however I was extremely poorly. I still went ahead and had dd2, had excellent care and although had some bp problems had an elective section at 37 weeks. DD2 has very mild CP, not sure why but something happened early on in womb (paed thnks she may have been a twin pregnancy at beginning. All things being equal, and taking into account money etc, dh & I have come to the conclusion that we will not have anymore - BUT NEITHER OF US IS HAPPY ABOUT IT. It sounds ridiculous I jknow, but we are both scared by previous events and what could/might go wrong, but we still have that nagging feeling that we both want just one more - is that just a natural way to feel when you decide to stop? Will it ever go away? I am beginning to feel quite down about the thought of not having another, but then again I am scared about what might happen. I know it sounds awful, but dd2 has mild CP - what if we have another and it's a lot worse? Would we be mad to take the risk? Sorry for the long post, but am completely spinning.

Not helpful, but I do sympathise and I would be interested in what people think about the "feeling" when you know you've had enough children.

Worth talking through with a good GP/midwife in the first instance? Or the gynaecologist who you dealt with in hospital? Good luck x

Thanks Walnut - Anyone else know when the time is right to call it a day?

this could be long (sorry)

I am one of 5 children and I am the eldest. i always thought I would have a gang of children and that I would be a real earth mother.

I worked as a nanny for 17 years and have always had lots of children around me.

However, having my 2 boys (whom I love with all my heart) has made me realise that I could not possibly cope with another one. I even took the morning after pill recently because I couldnt take the risk of having another baby.

I just think that I am 36, have a wonderful husband and 2 perfect healthy boys and that knowing my luck, fate would step in and I would have a handicapped child who would be dependant on me for life.

We can cope with the 2 we have got but they do take all our time and energy and money and they are only 5 and 2!!

i think you know when you have had enough children and for me that is now.

Well I have a ds who is 3 in july and I have a dd who is 18 weeks me and my dh said we would stop at 2 children but guess what I feel different now she is getting bigger and cant imagine never having another. I have had two difficult pregnacies I had high risk for down syndrome with my ds who is fine and then ended up with pre eclampsia with my dd.